Ask Lemmy

Suicide is your #2? Murdered specifically by a family member is higher than cancer?

Mate, do you need to talk?

Trying to pet something I shouldn't.

I work in IT so absolutely something heart related.

some prick in an oversized truck

Exsanguination by an unusually sharp pizza roll.

"He died how he lived." They'll say.

Definitely heart.

Here's my story, please take from it and do not do what I did... (LONG STORY)

First heart attack was 3 days after Thanksgiving, 2018. It presented as really bad heartburn. 24 hour a day heartburn. Unrelenting, unresponsive to Pepto heartburn.

In my defense it WAS 3 days after Thanksgiving, and I DID have that extra plate of sweet potatoes.

Monday, heartburn all day, hard to sleep.
Tuesday, same.
Wednesday, same + nausea and vomiting, called out sick from work (yes, I worked Mon/Tue).

Thursday... The heartburn pain moved into my upper arms, which I did not know was a thing. The pain in my chest was gone, but it felt like I had a STONE in the center of my chest, heavy, pulling down on my innards.

Advice line sent me to the ER, ER ran a simple Troponin blood test, normal is 0-99, mine was 328. Confirming the heart attack but at this point the damage was done and the only fix was an open heart bypass. Doc tells me the heavy feeling was my heart, each heartbeat was only pumping out 30% the normal amount which is right on the line between "walking around, talking to people", and no longer "walking around, talking to people."

Thu-Sun - Cardiac Ward.
Mon - Open Heart Surgery, ICU.
Tue - ICU.
Wed-Fri - Cardiac Ward, and back home.

1/2/2019 - I start having complications. If I lie down, I can't breathe, it's like I'm drowning in my own bed... BUUUUT... My company got acquired by a new one on 1/1 which meant my health insurance changed, I lost my hospital and all of my doctors and had to start over in a new medical system with the new insurance.

"Oh, you can't just 'go' to Cardology, you have to see primary care first, and there's a 3 month wait."

Twisted some arms, explained I just got cut open like a lobster and couldn't breathe, got an appt. in 2 weeks.

So I bought a fancy travel pillow and slept sitting up for 2 weeks since laying down would drown me.

Primary care checks me out, sends me home, says "Wait for my call." Call comes the next day... Congestive Heart Failure, get to the ER immediately.

I had developed an irregular heartbeat and my chest was full of fluid, when I would lay down, the fluid would level, crushing my heart and lungs. That feeling like I was drowning? Yeah, I was drowning, in my own chest fluid.

7 days in the hospital, they pulled 4 liters of fluid out EVERY DAY. 48 pounds of fluid.

Over the course of 2019 it was one complication after another after another. We continued juggling meds of different types and dosages.

By 2024 I had a bout where I was seriously out of breath, not like the CHF drowning thing, but I'd get out of breath walking to the bathroom.

Doc sends me to the ER where I have the 2nd heart attack. In the middle of a snow and ice storm. And a power outage.

"Did I just have a stroke?"

"Naw, it's cool, emergency generator just kicked in..."

Because of the snow and ice, I couldn't get to my preferred hospital, I had to go to the closest one, which wasn't the best one.

They did confirm the heart attack, and ran an angiogram to confirm I needed a stent, but couldn't do the stent. I'd have to be ambulanced to the GOOD hospital for the stent.

BUUUT... emergency services were overloaded due to the storm and the ambulance couldn't get there right away.

First night in the hospital... wake up at 6 AM, fiddling around on my phone, hey, Lemmy aint gonna moderate itself!

Nurse comes in:

"Were you asleep about an hour ago?"

"Yeah, why?"

"Your heart rate dropped to 40."

"Ummm... is that bad? I don't know these things."

Yeah, it's bad.

So ambulance still can't get there... One more night in the hospital. Same deal. Next morning, same nurse comes in.

"Were you asleep about an hour ago?"

"Yeah, why? Heart rate again?"

"No, your heart stopped for 8 seconds."

"Ummm... 'thank you'? I don't know what the correct response is to 'your heart stopped'. Shouldn't the alarms and stuff have gone off? I don't remember hearing anything."

"Oh, they don't go off in the room, they went off at the nurses station."

Ambulance finally arrived, got me to the GOOD hospital, and I got the stent and survived.

Definitely self inflicted, possibly physician assisted, family has a history of degenerative neural diseases and I'm not gonna go out that way

My heart. All of my grand parents and other close family have died 30's - 40's from heart failure. My brother was 3 weeks ago in the ER because of his heart. He's 38. 🤷

Possibly the terminal velocity anvil above my

For profit healthcare. Not a direct cause most likely, but indirectly by shaving years off of my life in pursuit of profits due to denying care.

some preventable illness that was accelerated or induced by stress.

Like most autistic people.

i don't know but at my funeral i want to be fired out of a cannon with confetti

I think I got the cancer punch card. Both paternal grandparents, and my dad (unsure about Mom, not in the picture) had cancer. Lost both grandparents and dad is currently undergoing treatment.

Yay.

Barring any sort of major accident. Almost certainly suicide.

But not in an "I'm depressed, get me out of here by any means necessary kind of way."

More in the, if I have terminal disease, or am otherwise going to be suffering a slow painful death, or I'll be a burden to those around me because of health limitations, I'll take myself out of the equation quite logically and happily.

So in that regard, there are only two possibilities; sudden accident, or taking care of it myself when the alternative is a slow decline.

And yes, old age is just another terminal disease, just on a longer timescale.

On March 4th, 2033 at 6:32am local time I will trip and fall walking downstairs. Where I will smack my head on the newel post at the bottom, breaking my neck and causing a severe skull fracture. I will lie semi-conscious on the floor for the next 16 minutes and 27 seconds before expiring at 6:50am local time.

I don't know what happens after that.

Choking on my own spit - coughing until I break a rib or a blood vessel

1. Cancer.
2. Heart related disease.
3. Exposure to the elements.
4. Shot randomly (American).
5. Hit by vehicle.

• Suicide by soft hanging
• Cancer (family is loaded with it)
• Stroke (genetic predisposition)
• Some form of political violence / civil war

If I don't die of old age surrounded by my loved ones, I will probably die by firing squad.

A combination of health issues stemming from poor diet and sedentary lifestyle.

One of my favorite professors was giving a class to me and other 200 about algorithms in a huge room. Suddenly he stops and drops “y’know, statistically speaking, 2/3 of this room will die of cancer”. So yeah, the odds are not on my side.

Stupidity.

I cycle and hike quite a bit, so probably a car

Flipping off the wrong guy. I'm almost sure.

Most likely inappropriate sarcasm. Or an angry mob. What.....I'm not a people person, okay??

False vacuum decay.

Go big or go home.

-overdose

-victim of random homicide

-suicide

-car

-smth retarded that i did drunk

Unlikely to be a singular cause.

My extreme height and recreational drug use will likely factor in.

Stress

• Heart/Lung failure (I have a nasty condition)
• Car Accident
• Lung transplant gone wrong
• Cancer
• Freak accident

Maybe the freak accident will be like some final destination crazy thing. Like I'll get smushed by a piano falling from a building, or I'll be attacked by an eagle and it'll cut the jugular. Maybe air force one will be shot down and land on my apartment sorta Donnie Darko style. Hahahaha

A total breakdown of society at some point in the next decade

I'll probably slip on a banana peel right down the stairs

1. Old-age-related sicknesses.
2. Missile/bomb/grenade explosion
3. Cancer

Old age 🙏

Your list is pretty wild. If you're serious about #2, please talk to a mental health professional if you haven't done so yet. And if you seriously put #4 ahead of, like, cancer or infectious diseases, you should definitely consider leaving for another country.

As for me, I live a relatively normal life in a relatively peaceful environment. I'd put my money on cancer.

1. Cancer
2. Stroke
3. Aneurism

Suicide shows up far too often. Y'all need help!

Some clumsy act on my part spirals out of control like a final destination. All because I'm clumsy.

Probably taking my health for granted and not taking care of it when younger, combined with societal constructs that make that difficult - nutrition, car culture, climate change, well care/health insurance, etc.