Reddit? Nah that's literally every platform.
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If I was the owner of Reddit, i would 100% save in-progress comments, and keep the unsent ones in the database for my enjoyment.
"I didn't have time to write you a short letter, so I wrote a long one."
i wanna say Mark Twain said that, but I'm not 100%
It's a similar story with editing videos. Paring a video back is where most of the time goes.
I thought it was Victor Hugo but apparently it was Blaise Pascal
Jane Austen I thought
Steve Austin?
Maybe it was Tony Hawk?
If you had made the effort to remix the meme by changing it to say lemmy, I'd've upvoted.
Does it matter?
Is it not clear from the way I wrote that comment that I thought it mattered..?
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Actually it's a keyboard shortcut to close the browser tab.
If someone is an obvious tankie or far-right troll, just be like "Lol loser" and never elaborate further.
'Know your place, trash. Fucking robot.'
If I said a quarter of the shit I typed out online, my corpse would be in a Lebanese prison cell.
It hits for me when I'm typing it out and I can already read the braindead response they're going to type and I don't want to spend another 2 paragraphs preempting the obvious response and I definitely don't want to wait a few hours/days to explain why they're still wrong.
Me when I realize the person I'm commenting to is from hexbear.
Tank you!
This is why "disable inbox replies" is such a great feature that I wish Lemmy would implement. For when you still have something to add, but it looks like the conversation is going downhill, the thought of further responses is causing anxiety, and you know the right choice is going to be to let the other person have the last word anyway.
The block feature is wonderful for this. I'm starting to use it liberally when I just can't be bothered to deal with someone anymore. I don't know if there's a mute user function as well, but that would at least let them yell into the void instead of being blocked outright.
iirc block on Lemmy is "mute" and it doesn't work like Reddit with preventing any interaction with any posts or comment threads you started (which I'm glad about, Reddit's block imo is a horrible way of doing it).
Personally I don't like the block feature for this for two reasons:
- it only targets one user, normally it's more "I want to stop talking about this for now" than not wanting to talk to one person in particular
- I won't see anything from that person in the future, which isn't what I want unless they are really awful, just want to be done with that specific comment thread despite having some degree of respect for the people in it
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That's because Reddit sells anger quite well. Their bots and human instigators work overtime to get you to comment like that. I think all of us Reddit refugees have fallen for this shit.
We're not doing great on deprogramming ourselves either. The news outlets not only manufacture consent, they also manufacture outrage. This isn't a new problem either. It's been going on since at least the Spanish-American war, probably earlier (see also William Randolph Hurst , Joseph Pulitzer).
Here's a tip for how I've improved my social media experience greatly:
Stick to a rule of 1 comment and no further replies.
Strangers online are not going to be convinced by your point of view and there is nothing to gain from getting into a back and forth conversation. Unless it's a particularly positive or productive conversation about a particular interest you share....there's nothing to gain from arguing online and lots of potential mental damage you risk.
My stance is: when arguing on lemmy, you're not only trying to convince the other one. You're also trying to convince future readers. Even if the other one is an asshole, people see that and that has an effect.
You're clearly incorrect!
I know you're playfully joking, but I second their opinion. I was basically on a crusade against misinformation in 2020 and 2021 against COVID deniers and election truthers. Nobody ever changes their mind. Nobody ever admits their wrong. No matter how respectful and accommodating you are, no matter what sources you find, it's just not worth it. Give one response if you feel inclined, but don't reply to the reply. Don't waste your time. Don't get pointlessly stressed.
People do change their minds sometimes, but it's never done in the moment and if you press them too hard on their beliefs they'll double down.
You don’t primarily reply to convince the person you reply to, it’s about the other readers.
I gotta say, there's a sentiment that nobody has ever said anything on the internet that's ever changed anyone's opinion about anything. And it is not a damning indictment of the internet nearly as much as folks who live by the theory.
But maybe they're right enough that it doesn't matter. A thousand hours of posting could be spent doing something more productive in swaying public opinion. Maybe "Ender's Game" is a lie and you cannot actually post your way to the Presidency. I mean, I certainly can't think of anyone who went so ham on social media that they reshaped an entire nation's political philosophy.
But also, maybe there's a negative valiance to posting. Perhaps it's just harder to post your way into people's hearts and fill them with love. But its comparatively easy to post your way into their amygdalas and drive them insane.
Proposal for an exception: Where the comments/discussion revolve around something non-controversial with people who are OK with partaking in a conversation without needing to win it.
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I bookmark subreddits and read them without logging in. Every time I feel the urge, I've got a hurdle to cross before I can type anything. Then it's immediately a "fuck it" moment and move on
The Reddit interface is so fucking obnoxious when you're not logged in, I've just given up on the community entirely. Days of casually browsing have been ruined by the constant gating and engagement baiting and GUI hell they've injected into the site.
old.reddit.com works when logged out luckily.
r.50501.chat and redlib.northboot.xyz also work.
Been there
I am slightly concerned that I recognized the anime source from that one frame 😅 To be fair it is a fantastic series! Check out Paranoia Agent if you can 🍿
Literally just finished watching it. Incredibly series from the GOAT Satoshi Kon. But... I will admit when I first saw it, my brain went to
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Yeh I've stopped myself from making negative comments before, you aren't changing anyone's mind and it's probably gonna get you banned
lol I got permanent my banned for saying I was surprised Kanye hasn’t murder/suicided Kim or Taylor yet… they’ll ban you for anything at this point
Most likely, their in-house AI saw the Unalive-Word and auto-flagged it. Then another AI that has been inserted to replace some data sweat shop worker picked it up and auto-approved the ban notice. Very possible that no human ever saw what you posted before you were ejected for Word Crimes.
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Yeah arguing on the Internet is a waste of time which is why I don't do it much anymore unless I feel very strongly that someone's reply to my comment needs to be disputed.
Most of the time I make my point then don't bother responding to any replies. It's much more pleasant to respond when it's you're not arguing, just discussing something interesting.
Arguing for something you believe in is a thankless job, considering it only changes opinions once every twenty five times, and gets you flak, infinite arguements or insults the other Twenty four times
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