Literally my parents.
"everything we gave up for you, and you still act ungrateful."
this post was submitted on 13 Feb 2025
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Literally my parents.
Same :/ If it helps OP, you're not alone π«β€οΈ
Also same. Please take care of yourself and try to enjoy small victories.
Thank you. <3
It's weird. Because I do have lots and lots of issues that stem from my very broken childhood, but I also know that both my parents were basically flying blind and I was unfortunately the first one through the gate. My little brothers got a much better fathering experience from my dad and my little sister got a much better mothering experience from my mom.
Mostly emotional mistakes/abuse or whatever you want to call it. But they also both beat my physically on very rare occasions. I will admit that I probably deserved one or two of those beatings as I was a handful of a kid at times, but I still remember those times pretty clearly.
Thankfully my relationship with both my parents is much better these days. My depression and other things come and go. Kinda just take it day by day.
Cheers for all the bad parenting we got eh?
No child deserves to be beat.
I definitely deserved at least one of the smacks from my mother. But other than that yes I will agree that physical punishment or retaliation against kids should be avoided at all costs.
Thing is, I look at my neice and shudder to think someone would hit her. No matter how bad she can be, she doesn't deserve to be beat for it. It makes me upset to remember I was only 4 when I was hit across the face by my mom. I look at her and think, "God, how could someone hurt such a small girl?".
But they also both beat my physically on very rare occasions.
What do you mean "beat"
Were they actually beating you like a school bully would, or are they slapping your hands?
Both are wrong, but an actual "beating" would probably cross the line and is both immoral and illegal.
And no, you don't "deserve" any type of corporal punishment for anything that you might have done (unless you murdered your siblings or something like that)
Uhhh mom hit me with wooden spoons or three things at me when she was angry. I definitely pushed her buttons and antagonized her at least once that I can remember. So that one I'll take the blame for.
My father only threw something at me once. But I remember one time he spanked me so badly I couldn't sit comfortably for a few days. I was in highschool at that point lol.
They never like punched me or kicked me or anything like that.
Nah. Please do not blame yourself for being a child that didn't have emotional regulation. Please hold parents to the bare minimum standard of providing modeling of it. Throwing shit or hitting you is not healthy modeling.
They did their best. Given the parents they both had honestly it's a miracle that I was only abused the amount I was abused. I know that doesn't give them a free pass on making parenting mistakes but it does give context for their emotional shortcomings as parents.
I have grown to forgive them regardless of their mistakes in my youth.
Can't change the past but we can make changes for the collective future.
βWhy doesnβt he want to talk to us after we basically ran psychological experiments on him?β
"You always seem to 'develop' some sort of health issue. You're kind of a hypochondriac!"
Me, who went undiagnosed with multiple physical & mental health issues all my life, only to be told that my issues were actually manifestations from demons because I was not following, believing, and trusting in God hard enough. πΆ
"Wow! You're doing so well now! See? You're notβ!"
"I'M ON LOTS OF MEDICATION NOW, THANK YOU."
"Why does my child never call, moved out and left me homeless"
Who knows mom, we'll never be able to figure this mystery out
My life in a nutshell