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I have a body that no clothes will fit. A very dramatic hourglass shape. If I see something cute, it definitely will not fit me.
Nothing. Fucking. Fits.
The worst part is the bras. The fucking bras!!! Why are US bra sizes so fucked?? I literally only wear ill-fitting sports bras now!!! Otherwise my tits are squeezed or wire stabs me or every other pain.
I also have stupid sensitive skin & hypohydrosis, so rashes & heat exhaustion are things I need to think about when getting dressed.
Don't worry. I am built pretty straight up and down and nothing fits me either. I think that people with good fitting clothes are probably getting them tailored.
Could you wear a well fitted sports bra instead? Can you handle Merino wool fabric? The Branwyn Busty soft bra is so very nice and temperature regulating, I can wear it doing yardwork. Any other wool I absolutely cannot stand but the soft Merino knits can be very soothing feeling and they stay dry.
I can see only 2 arguments for learning to sew. This and being able to add or enlarge pockets
For me it's that everything today is made out of some flavor of shitty plastic. Call ot whatever you want - "Active Wear", "Cool Breeze", "Dry Tech" - it's polyester, it feels terrible, and amps my BO up to 11 even if I'm just sitting still.
I thought it was just me! I almost never have BO, unless I'm wearing polyester. Sitting for 8 hours in a football shirt is like equivalent to me not showering for a week.
I don't understand it.
lol sorry about that. Polyester definitely doesnβt have that effect on me and unlike cotton, 100% polyester is pretty much unaffected by wash + dry cycles.
Cotton wears out stupidly quick in comparison.
So when buying off Iβm interested i donβt even check sizes, I go straight for material. If itβs less than 70% polyester I wonβt even consider buying it.
The apology is because stores do seem to be shifting towards folks like me. I love it.
Yup. Polyester feels way better on my skin than cotton, especially if I sweat at all. Also easier to maintain. I won't buy anything cotton these days.
Look in your area for a shop that does ready-to-wear clothing alterations. Sometimes dry cleaners will offer those services. Altering a dress shirt to fit you better is a relatively inexpensive service and then you don't have to worry about this anymore. As a 6' tall woman, this is literally one of the reasons I learned to sew.
34" inseam is too long 32" is too short. Thick legs compared to waist size so if I don't go up a size the legs are too tight.
As a fellow tall, I don't even buy things unless they are "T" sized anymore. Gave up on it a long time ago. My shirt size is "XLT". There are sometimes things like work events or other places where they are giving away T shirts and they ask for my size and I tell them XLT and they are like "How about XXL?" and I'm like "No". I don't need to add another ill-fitting t shirt to the pile of shirts I will never wear.
Kohl's has a big and tall section that is pretty reliable. The past few years I have been stocking up on Tommy Bahama clothing. I have a relative who works pretty high up the chain for their corporate office so I am able to get a discount which brings the price of their clothing down from "outrageously expensive" to "still pretty expensive". It's damn good quality clothing though. I have the Big & Tall Bali Skyline T-shirt in every color. It's probably the most comfortable thing I have ever worn.
When I've decided something I bought a few months ago is perfect even after several washes, I try to buy another one, but that product is sold out and will never be seen again.
Yes! I hate this!! There seems to be an industry wide practice of never carrying any product consistently.
I understand that if something had to be put on clearance even in-season that theyβre not going to buy more of it. But surely bringing back best sellers would be profitable?
Or even providing some mechanism for ordering previously-stocked items online? I donβt need to try it on and will order many units/variations because I already know I love it. Seems like an easy way to make money. Low to no returns too.
Paying of course.
Sizing and needing to calculate.
Luckily I found a shop (online) that is nice to wear and has no bs sizing.
And it shows the real employees wearing the stuff.
Mostly the "shopping" part.
Everything except pants. My legs are apparently within the bounds of normality but my head, hands, feet, and spine are simply too big.
You wouldnβt think being six feet tall would be such a hindrance to shopping. Itβs not big enough to stand out in a crowd, so why is it so big as to be incompatible with mass production?
I fount some shirts that fit "tall" and they are fantastic!
I'm 6'4, hopefully I have some help. Levis jeans makes a 36" inseam, Kohl's has some tall sized clothes here and there, a few dress shirts and around the house gear, and Lands End has some tall sized stuff, though most of it makes you look like a grandpa.
Getting kicked out of occupied change rooms. Like, I thought sharing was caring
I'm fairly broad for my height and need a taped waist on tops so I'm a bit of an outlier.
I won't buy clothes now that doesn't put the actual measurements of the clothes on the listing for the item because otherwise, I have no idea what the fit is actually like.
I'm really annoyed how little consistency there is in sizing terminology. One brand's 'XL' might be too tight for me while another brand's 'XL' could fit me like a garbage bag. Makes shopping online a real hassle for me. I always have to check measurement tables and even then it still might not fit right.
I don't understand why the inconsistency exists. If brands all agreed with each other on what exactly their sizing terms mean, wouldn't that cut down on returns?
I feel you. I'm 6'4" and the biggest hurdle is pants and shirt length. Unless they have tall sizes all shirts become halter tops if I even slightly raise my arms.
Pants are a pain in the ass too because I need at least 34" length for them to not be capris on me. Most companies just make all their pants 32".
There is a reason 90% of my clothing has come from Eddie Bauer for the last 15 years. I'm not particularly brand loyal. They just make clothes that fit me, and most companies don't.
I'm 6β2" and have a fairly long torso compared to leg length. So I'm ok on pants but shirts can be a problem. I have noticed that with T-shirts, the difference between XL and XXL is all in the width and not length. This is not helpful.
Have you found any "Tall" sizes? I used to need 2XLT, and I know they make "smaller" sizes like that.
It's hard for men. Big stores that just squeeze in a small section in the back for men. Trying 3 different items: one's too big, one's too tight, but they're all the same size.
This. Everywhere I go it's like 1:5 men's to women's and the only fashion styles you can pick from are "my church let's us dress casual", "9-5 at the law office", or "I cosplay as a meth dealer"
Lol. Thanks for typing this. As a woman, I always had a similar appreciation of most menswear but couldn't really articulate what was about it that made it feel so off.
There are a few places where there is nice mens clothing but it's usually ridiculously expensive.
Honestly, I've long since given up on finding a Cardigan for less than $100 outside the women's section. Fortunately I've never been above wearing women's clothing.
I have an unusually wide neck. Shirts, especially dress shirts won't fit both my neck and my arm length without tailoring. NGL not having to wear dress clothes was a a part of why I choose to do a computer science major and not a regular math major.
"So why aren't you going for a math major, we thought you had great potential"
"My neck's too wide"
Shoes. They might fit in the store, they might fit at home when I walk around with them for 5-10 minutes, but once I take them outside and they get dirty, suddenly it hurts everywhere.
Pants. I have thicker thighs, especially when compared to my waist size. I find a lot of pants are pretty tight on me because of this. I've started going for the more athletic brands as a result.
I've got a fat ass and thighs so all my bottoms are 2xl while my tops are just L. Makes it almost impossible to get a dress that fits comfortably and as soon as you enter potientialy fitting territory the price magically doubles
Well atleast you have the dream physique as compensation.
I'm an Asian size Medium. American sizing puts me in an awkward middle of S and M. US Small fits best on my shoulders and arms, but the torso is too tight. On the other hand, US Medium fits well on my torso, but the shoulders are too wide and the sleeves too large.
Same here as a European. Small shoulders but medium torso. Luckily it's not too bad.
My autism manifests heavily on the side of hating certain feelings and very much hating anything tight on me. Anywhere. Makes it difficult to wear anything. Especially bras. Which is very bad as it's very obvious I am not wearing one.
So instead of trying to find one that works I just have up caring.
Still trying to find comfortable clothes but if I find that, I care little how it looks. Usually. Until the anxiety manages to come screaming in.
Especially bras
Excuse if I am mistaken but isnt it the whole point to be snug while not being too small and bordering on squeezing you?
Yes, which is why they are absolute hell for my brain.
I'm short, so regular pants are always like 9" too long and the waist of dresses always hit in the wrong spot. I'd wear petite clothes, but the selection is aimed at women in their 70s. It sux.
I have a big head and have trouble with hats. Particularly ball caps. They are supposed to be one-size-fits-all, but apparently, I am an exception to this. Even at the widest possible setting, they are too tight.
We have excellent online stores like Zalando that have changed my life. I order, clothes are usually delivered the next day, and returning is as easy as putting it back into the same box and driving to the postal office again. Money back within a few days.
They have perfected the clothes shopping experience for men. No more going to awkward physical shops.
My size is known by the shop, and I can order lots of variations of the same clothes, different sizes, just to find the perfect one that really fits me.
Deciding if I look a dick in the clothes I am trying on, or whether I really really look a dick in the clothes I'm trying on.
The one real advantage in going clothes shopping with a wife or girlfriend, for stuff for oneself.