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[–] pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 5 days ago

I kind of dread the day I stop being appealing to gay men and start being appealing to straight men. Well, less the latter, I doubt I'll ever pass so well as to be appealing to straight men... During the brief unfortunate time I was stupid enough to look for connections, I had 0 interest from women, the only interest I had was from a few strictly gay not bi men. I seriously doubt transitioning is making me more appealing to women, so I feel like I'm slowly removing my dating pool as I become someone I like more. Well, it's for the best anyways, dating/hooking up was a disaster and I should have known better then to try. (It's not a problem that women aren't interested in me, it's not something I'm upset about, it's also for the best given some brain bugs I have)

Sorry for trauma dumping in random places across Lemmy, it's just nice to get the thoughts out of my head and into text sometimes

Transbian - you heard it here first!

[–] heavyboots@lemmy.ml 61 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Relevant to your interests: As a straight, male mountain biker, I swear like three quarters of the cute women I meet and get interested in are lesbians. (And the other 25% are out biking with their husband, boyfriend, etc.)

[–] ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml 20 points 1 week ago

That kind of thing happened to me in college turns out I'm just trans with a spot on gaydar

[–] greedytacothief@lemmy.world 17 points 1 week ago

That's why I bring the cute women mountain biking, and then they complain when we have to bike up a hill...

[–] joyjoy@lemm.ee 30 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Don't they all live in Lesbos?

[–] Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

ON Lesvos. It's an island.

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 22 points 1 week ago (1 children)

it amazes me how people find partners outside of big cities

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 week ago (4 children)

How would one find a partner in a big city?

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 3 points 6 days ago

My friend actually met his husband at a speed dating event at a local video game bar called Battle and Brew. This was in metro Atlanta, which depending on where you live may it may not be considered a big city lol.

[–] NickwithaC@lemmy.world 17 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Bars

Shared interest groups

Your friend introduced you

In that order

[–] kautau@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago

And I think specifically bars, not clubs. You won’t be able to have a conversation with someone in a club, though if you are stand out attractive, that probably doesn’t matter

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] NickwithaC@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago

You don't have to drink, it's just that's where people are.

[–] I_am_10_squirrels@beehaw.org 13 points 1 week ago

Most big cities have dedicated places for finding a partner. For butch lesbians, it's Home Depot. For everyone else, try a bar maybe?

[–] Klear@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago

That also amazes me.

[–] Jimbo@yiffit.net 14 points 1 week ago (1 children)

And if you live somewhere like New Zealand that little sliver doesn't exist either

[–] Sas@beehaw.org 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Well shit I live in Germany and was very much considering fleeing to NZ if the right wing parties get any bigger and Russia gets closer to defeating Ukraine. I heard Auckland is one of the gayest cities in the world so that's where I was planning to go. Is it really that hard to find other lesbians over there?

[–] Jimbo@yiffit.net 1 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

You may have some luck in Auckland, it's population compared to everywhere else in NZ is much larger despite not being the capital. Outside of Auckland and Wellington you'll likely struggle. Don't come to the south island if you're looking for population density lol

[–] dylanmorgan@slrpnk.net 13 points 1 week ago (1 children)

My pie is reversed but I’m a cis dude.

[–] Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago

Befriend them

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 9 points 1 week ago

You finally meet one who lives within 30 miles of you and she's femme4femme

[–] festnt@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 week ago

why are you researching their natural habitats?