Fathers are great but none is definitely better than insecure attachment to one. The father whose presence or love comes and goes or isn’t stable fucks you up far more than the one who you don’t have

[–] rickyrigatoni@lemm.ee 5 points 2 months ago

It's the same with every familial relationship. I'm glad people these days are pushing the found family thing hard to make up for how terrible blood relatives can be for people who need it.

[–] gravitas_deficiency@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 months ago

So while I do have a pretty decent relationship with my father, it always did bother me growing up that he was fucking ALWAYS on business trips. Just the nature of the career he had. But in retrospect, absolutely not great for the long-term dynamic.

[–] Chocrates@lemmy.world 15 points 2 months ago

Psypost out here throwing hands

[–] just_another_person@lemmy.world 14 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I drink because I'm bored with life, not any issues with my father lol

[–] moistclump@lemmy.world 19 points 2 months ago

I’m a complex human being. I don’t drink JUST because of my issues with my father.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 2 months ago

Bored and despondent. We'll see how I'm doing after the next presidential swearing-in.

[–] finley@lemm.ee 9 points 2 months ago

stop attacking me

[–] 474D@lemmy.world 9 points 2 months ago

This is a totally new idea that hasn't been known forever

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 8 points 2 months ago

No fucking shit

[–] houstoneulers@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago

Tracks

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 2 months ago

So that's why I drink. I already knew, but it's validating to have someone else say so. Good thing I'm in therapy.