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Most of the time when people say they have an unpopular opinion, it turns out it's actually pretty popular.

Do you have some that's really unpopular and most likely will get you downvoted?

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[–] tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

The average American does not give a single shit about protecting minority or women's rights, from my lived experience. Not unless it affects them directly.

[–] MooseTheDog@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Both can be true. This probably makes more sense in your head.

[–] PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S@lemmy.sdf.org 141 points 1 year ago (40 children)

Fuck ALL advertisements. Yes, even "unobtrusive" ones, especially yours. If I want your shit, I will find you. If I appreciate your shit, I'll pay you for your time. If you want to connect, I'm all ears. Otherwise, fuck off capitalists, fuck off advertisers, and fuck off useful idiots who want to waste my finite lifespan in this miserable universe showing me ads.

[–] MooseTheDog@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

An accurate and informative presentation of a product someone might be interested in could be considered an ad. For example, Coca-Cola written in drones across the sky isn't an ad. It's actually a target for a drone jammer.

[–] Granixo@feddit.cl 46 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I literally just came from another post that was talking about this.

[–] e_mc2@feddit.nl 12 points 1 year ago

Basically what happened to the Internet as a whole.

[–] Shdwdrgn@mander.xyz 14 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Unfortunately there's a lot of products that most people don't even know exist. Hell I keep finding new tools and wondering why I've been doing things the hard way for so long.

OTOH, fuck all the advertisers who use shady tactics to make sales, and especially fuck all the people who pray on the naivety of others to steal their money. I was just showing a customer an email I got the other day stating her domain hosting was past due and required immediate payment, and she asked how I knew it was a scam. Uh, hello, because ---I--- am hosting your domain and website (and this is exactly why I share this kind of stuff with people, to make them think before they blindly write a check).

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[–] ReallyKinda@kbin.social 98 points 1 year ago (30 children)

The average person shouldn’t be allowed to drive. It’s extremely dangerous and most people are desensitized to it and absolutely don’t take the natural responsibility towards others that comes with having the ability to kill someone with a finger twitch (or a slight lapse in attention) seriously enough. I don’t think it would be allowed if it was just invented this year.

[–] Synthead@lemmy.ml 22 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Too many places let you drive if you do the happy path stuff right: stopping at a stop sign, changing lanes safely, etc. But the most important time of your driving is when you're about to hit a semitruck and you need to get your car out of the way, and there is no training material for this at all. People often panic and slam the brakes and aggressively turn the wheel, which is a perfect setup for understeer and losing control of your car. They are literally getting in a situation where they are about to die and they choose to greatly increase their risk due to negligence.

It's cheaper to run simulators than purchase cars and hire trainers. Get em in nasty situations and teach them how to get out of it. For real, if mom and dad can't evade sinking their freeway missile into a van full of kids, they shouldn't be able to get behind the wheel and be presented with opportunities where this might happen any time they drive.

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[–] CheeseBread@lemmy.ml 78 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (27 children)

Pansexual, polysexual, and omnisexual are all microlabels and are all subsets of bisexual. You don't need more labels than gay, straight, and bi.

Edit: I forgot about asexuals. But I specifically only care about bi subsets. They're dumb, and you only need bi

[–] tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Polysexual is very different than bisexual. You can be het-poly or homo-poly.

Also, most of the nuanced micro-labels are for the community. If they don't apply to you, don't use them.

[–] CheeseBread@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 day ago

Polyamory isn't a sexuality. It's a dating preference. Most of these labels do apply to me, and I think they're redundant.

[–] pizza-bagel@kbin.social 15 points 1 year ago (3 children)

And asexual

But I agree. The bi community already collectively decided we are trans and nonbinary inclusive. We don't need to further separate it out.

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[–] Treefox@lemmy.ml 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I agree. All the little bitty addages don't make sense. You can be bi and still have preferences. Just keep it simple gosh dangit.

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[–] Teon@kbin.social 71 points 1 year ago (13 children)

All religions should be heavily taxed. NO EXCEPTIONS!!

[–] richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one 15 points 1 year ago

And, independently of their tax status, they shouldn't promote political candidates.

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[–] Thorny_Thicket@sopuli.xyz 63 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (16 children)

We don't need more pronouns. We need less of them.

In my native language there is no even he/she pronouns. The word is β€œhΓ€n” and it’s gender neutral. You can be male, female, FTM, MTF, non-binary or what ever and you’re still called β€œhΓ€n”. You can identify as anything you like and "hΓ€n" already includes you.

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[–] frozen@lemmy.frozeninferno.xyz 63 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (29 children)

Being fat is a choice the vast majority of the time, and I have a huge bias against big people.

I used to be fat (250ish lbs (110ish kg) at 5'8"ish (172ish cm)), and as much as I would like to blame my shit on anything else, the person feeding me, the person sitting at the computer for hours, the person actively avoiding all physical activity was me and no one else. After I got diagnosed with some weight related shit, I turned my entire life upside down, am at a much healthier 150 lbs (68ish kg), and feel so much better, both physically and mentally.

I'm aware of my bias, and I make every active effort to counter it in my actual dealings with bigger people. Especially because there are certain circumstances, however rarely, where it may not actually be their fault. But I'd be lying if I said my initial impression was anything except "God, what a lazy, fat fuck."

Edit: Added metric units

[–] MooseTheDog@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

I've since dropped this position because the world has changed, and so has my view. Heart Disease kills more people than anything, and now we effectively have a cure for obesity. Obesity should now be seen as smallpox or polio - something to be eradicated. No excuses, and now they're actively limiting the supply of this - forcing more product out of the hands that need it and into the hands of people like musk

[–] pizza-bagel@kbin.social 11 points 1 year ago (5 children)

I used to be fat, and when I watch morbidly obese people talk about how much they love food and it makes them happy and makes them feel better that is 100% me. Food is absolutely an addiction for some people, including me. Thankfully I have it under control to be at a healthy weight and lose weight when I need to, but some of these people have absolutely tragic childhoods or life experiences and I don't blame them at all for coping in that way. I could 100% see myself in that position if I had been through what they have been through.

However, those people are self aware that they are unhealthy. The people I can't stand are the "healthy at every size" fat acceptance people. Healthy at every size was SUPPOSED to be that you can make positive health focused changes at any size and there is no point of no return. But it got twisted into I can be morbidly obese and I am still 100% healthy forever. And they even make people feel bad for wanting to lose weight, even if it's for health reasons. Those people are trash and fall on the same level as antivax people IMO.

Everyone deserves to be treated with respect, until you start spewing harmful bullshit and then I will judge you as much as I want.

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[–] Vlyn@lemmy.ml 10 points 1 year ago

I totally get that, same here.

But ultimately you can't just blame people. There is literally an entire industry trying to sell you cheap carbs and fat. Down to the sound a bag of chips makes when you open it (this is not a joke).

So on one hand you have evolution, your body still being stuck in the past where food was scarce. On the other hand you have too much food and it's highly engineered to be addicting on purpose.

It's no surprise most people are going to lose that challenge.

[–] Lumun@lemmy.zip 9 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I've been thinking about this topic a lot lately and your comment is interesting. Your first sentence is definitely phrased in a more controversial way than the rest of your comment, but I can't help seeing it as very similar to "Being depressed is a choice the vast majority of the time, and I have a huge bias against depressed people." Is that an unfair comparison?

I know that treating fatness/obesity as a disease is kinda controversial but I feel like folks give people dealing with mental health a lot more grace than people dealing with health issues related to being fat. I've also heard that for some people they can be perfectly healthy at a higher weight (though this is clearly not the case for many fat people who are seeing health impacts). I guess I'm assuming that a lot of fat people would potentially like to be less so, but can't (for any number of reasons) quite get there. This seems really similar for me to people dealing with depression, anxiety, etc who want to change things but keep falling back into the problem.

I guess my question is do you have bias against people who can't escape other bad cycles like mental health or even stuff like alcoholism? Or is it more just that you think it's fair to judge people without the discipline/willpower to get out of a state they didn't want to be in, like you did.

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[–] richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one 59 points 1 year ago (8 children)

Most people shouldn't be parents.

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[–] jsveiga@sh.itjust.works 49 points 1 year ago (12 children)

Dogs were hardwired by selective breeding to worship their owners. Not long ago they at least were loyal companions. You got one off the streets, fed it leftovers, washed it with a hose, it lived in the yard, and it was VERY happy and proud of doing its job. Some breeds now were bred into painful disabling deformities just to look "cute", and they became hysterical neurotic yapping fashion accessories. Useless high maintenance toys people store in small cages ("oh, but my child loves his cage") when they don't need hardwired unconditional lopsided "love" to feed their narcissism.

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[–] Ringmasterincestuous@aussie.zone 42 points 1 year ago (9 children)

After an entity reaches an annual cap (say $5m profit), 95c of every dollar should be taxed

[–] GreenMario@lemm.ee 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Give em a "you won capitalism!" Participation trophy πŸ† too.

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[–] shrugal@lemm.ee 37 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

We have blown the concept of ownership way out of proportion. No one should be able to own things they have absolutely no connection to, like investment firms owning companies they don't work for, houses they don't live in or land they've never been to.

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[–] loudWaterEnjoyer@lemmy.dbzer0.com 37 points 1 year ago (14 children)
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[–] Sombyr@lemmy.one 35 points 1 year ago (13 children)

Most conservatives, however deeply red, are not intentionally hateful and are usually open to rational discussion. People just don't know how to have rational discussions nowadays and the few times they do, they don't know how to think like somebody else and put things in a way they can understand.

People nowadays think because a point convinced them, it should convince everybody else and anybody who's not convinced by it is just being willfully ignorant. The truth is we all process things differently and some people need to hear totally different arguments to understand, often put in ways that wouldn't convince you if you heard it.

It's hard to understand other people and I feel like the majority of people have given up trying in favor of assuming everybody who disagrees with you knows their wrong and refuses to admit it.

[–] tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Maybe in the past, but nowadays there's no rational discussion to be had with someone who doesn't think you should legally be allowed to exist..

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[–] eddy@infosec.pub 33 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Religion is nothing more then social engineering on a grand scale.

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[–] Lettuceeatlettuce@lemmy.ml 27 points 1 year ago (10 children)

People who are strongly against nuclear power are ignorant of the actual safety statistics and are harming our ability to sustainably transition off fossil fuels and into renewables.

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[–] reverendsteveii@lemm.ee 16 points 1 year ago (3 children)

the military is a cult that tricks children into dying for the wealth of the owner class. they tell you you're defending "freedom" but you're defending the gravest enemies of freedom that currently exist.

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[–] loffiz@feddit.nl 14 points 1 year ago (4 children)

USA is an oligarchy. I can imagine americans disagree. But perhaps not lemmies.

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[–] Magnetar@feddit.de 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Lemmy needs "sort by controversial" for entertainment purposes.

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[–] tweeks@feddit.nl 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Euthanasia should be available for anyone at any age. You don't choose to be born, life has no inherent value, suffering is strictly personal. Suicide is a terrible option with lots of drama, an extremely high failure rate and lifelong treatments or medication that are seen as the solution by society is a conservative convulsion of keeping people alive under any circumstances.

We could set up three sessions with a therapist, to keep people from losing loved ones too fast. But honestly, to me that would feel patronizing. That other people find it important someone stays alive is their problem. If it hurts them too much they can do the same.

There is joy in life and that's beautiful, but on a scale suffering has the possibility to be more intense. Let people die without drama, let them say goodbye if they want with a ceremony, let them choose.

That's the next step in the mentality of a modern civilization. It will fix the drama of wars, hunger and pain as you always have a simple painless solution if the suffering gets too heavy. Just end it, peacefully, whenever you want.

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[–] christophski@feddit.uk 13 points 1 year ago (10 children)

Not having kids because of climate change is stupid. You are leaving the world in the hands of people who care less than you.

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[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I don't want mass-adoption of Lemmy by more Reddit users (said a former Reddit lurker who likes it here and actually participates because it's awesome at this stage).

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[–] renlok@lemmy.ml 12 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Assisted suicide is good for society and if legalised would help fix my countries broken healthcare system

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[–] LongPigFlavor@lemmy.ml 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

We've been living in a dystopia for a very long time now, we're just becoming more aware to it.

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[–] loffiz@feddit.nl 11 points 1 year ago (5 children)

No word is inherently bad, it's all about what you mean and how you use it. Most people have a no-tolerance with a few words though.

For example, all words would be ok in educational purposes.

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[–] Hyperreality@kbin.social 11 points 1 year ago (5 children)

It is already legal to have a sexual relationship with multiple partners at the same time. Bigamy should be legalised. That it isn't, is a result of entrenched bigotry and religious prudery.

If you're using God as a proper noun, capitalise it. Not capitalising it is potentially confusing. Eg. There are numerous gods. Zeus is a god and God is a god.

It is likely too late to avert climate apocalypse. Don't have kids and you've done far more than most to prevent climate change. (This doesn't mean we shouldn't try to prevent it.)

A lot of society's ills are attributable to arseholes not getting punched in the face enough. This includes the fact that we can't make it legal to punch arseholes in the face, because arseholes would abuse that right to punch people who don't deserve it in the face.

America has become so fat, that most Americans have a skewed perception of what it means to be obese.

Most sports are stupid. Michael Phelps can swim 6 mph. Fish can swim 10x faster than that. Fuck that. I want to watch a tiger chase Trump through a maze.

The already high male suicide rate is severely underestimated. A lot of male risk taking behaviour, including car/bike related accidents, is suicidal in nature.

In practice identity based politics is often used to divide and conquer and distract people from their true interests. Class consciousness is more important. You have more in common with your colleagues, than you do with Beyonce or Joe Rogan, just because they happen to have the same skin colour and/or genitals as you.

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[–] Wilshire@beehaw.org 10 points 1 year ago (7 children)

Owning a second home should be illegal.

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[–] squaresinger@feddit.de 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

It is really hard to have an unpopular opinion unless you are mentally deranged/a conspiracy theorist.

As evidenced by the comments under this very post. Even when trying most people can't come up with an actually unpopular opinion.

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[–] coffee_poops@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 year ago (5 children)

The COVID pandemic never ended.

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[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 year ago (24 children)

The worst maker mistake humanity has ever made was not killing every nazi after ww2.

I've gotten some nasty responses to that one lol

But I'm fucking right

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