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My mother has BPD and is pretty vicious, but I think the worst moment was when she told me it was my fault my brother is gay. She HATES the fact he is gay despite really not hating gay people at all and we were raised to love and accept them, and since she hates me she thinks it's my fault. BPD leads to a lot of disordered thinking.
You can have gay kids and still grieve for the life you expected them to have. That doesn't mean you dont love them. What matters is you support who they actually are, not who you thought they would be. But sprinkle in some disordered thinking and I can see how that could go awry.