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[–] wheeldawg@sh.itjust.works 9 points 2 months ago (4 children)

How is weed so low? I get it's not literally everyone's cup of tea but I'm my experience more people partake or are ok with it than not.

[–] Kacarott@aussie.zone 19 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I'm not sure how the survey was phrased to participants, but to me a "hobby" is a regular thing someone does, as their way to pass the time/have fun. I've smoked before and have no problem with it, but I do think I would find it less attractive for it to be someone's hobby, as opposed to an occasional social thing they do.

Similarly I have no problem with people watching porn, but if it's gone far enough for it to be considered their hobby, then that is less attractive to me, which also matches the chart.

I might be misunderstanding the word hobby, but so might many of the survey participants.

[–] RvTV95XBeo@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 months ago

I see this list as "things women would like to have a detailed conversation about with their partner".

Less "do you use weed" and more "am I going to have to sit here and listen to you mansplain the difference between sativa and indica for the next two hours"

[–] ECB@feddit.org 7 points 2 months ago (1 children)

It's mostly the "hobby" bit, which implies that this is one of your favorite, regular free-time activities. If you are someone who smokes weed a few times a year in social situations, that is a different situation.

A lot of people would find it difficult to be around someone who spends their time smoking unless they are really into it too. The smell especially can be really grating/annoying, and the person smoking often doesn't realize because they have become smell-blind over time (similar to tobacco smokers).

[–] wheeldawg@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I guess I was unsure how dedicated "hobby" was.

[–] ayyy@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Do you own at least one t-shirt with a weed leaf on it?

[–] wheeldawg@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 months ago

No, but so but one of two shirts I was gifted, they're almost all just solid colors. 2 have different kinds of stripes, and I got 2 band t shirts from concerts. That's it.

I'm not against wearing one though. But I would probably use it like a cigar smoker's smoking jacket. Just change into it when vaping (I don't smoke it) it and then back into a regular plain shirt when I leave the area. I wouldn't go in public with it.

This place has way too many super conservative people and I just don't wanna hear it.

Same reason I wouldn't wear sports shirts even if I didn't hate all sports, or religious shirts even if I was religious.

I just don't wanna automatically piss someone off before I have a reason to lol. Just a bunch of different solid color shirts.

[–] BastingChemina@slrpnk.net 6 points 2 months ago

I guess it's like drinking, I don't think the casual drinking is an issue but if you start calling it your hobby it becomes more problematic.

[–] BoxOfFeet@lemmy.world -1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

In my sphere, very few people use it. And it is mostly frowned upon. Primarily, if it's smoked. It's regarded as crude, and gross. I'd say edibles are more accepted, but you don't talk really talk about it.

[–] wheeldawg@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)
[–] BoxOfFeet@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Well, I guess it depends on your definition of fun. Concerts? Board games? Survival or RTS games? Work? We do those. I use edibles sometimes. My wife isn't a huge fan. Nobody I know approves of smoking.

[–] wheeldawg@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

My social circle isn't a pot den, lol. Actually most don't partake either now that my circle already changed some.

But very few think anything negative about it, it's mostly just because their jobs prevent them from it.

I know far more people that would judge a cigarette smoker than would judge a weed smoker. I've only known two people course to my age that smoked at all. One quit years ago and the other has a whole new set of medical problems (on top of what she already had going on). I don't know if these new problems have anything to do with it, but I pretty much just assume any cigarette smoker with any medical problem has it because of the cigarettes. Probably a little too overboard for accuracy, but as far as I'm concerned they're just death. There is literally zero... Absolutely zero benefits to it at all, if you smoke you have only had things come of it. (Would love to hear a counter example, but I don't think any exist)

Anyway, that's a whole tangent so let me stop before I really get going.

Suffice it to say, that my meaning was that people who are against it (in my experience) are always uptight, religious, or something similar.

Unless they have a specific reason that they don't like it, I just probably wouldn't be friends with them. Just judging it because good told em to or whatever. Maybe that's just because I'm in the south and I just don't know what other areas are like.

But for me, you're either morally just fine with it but don't partake, a user (with a huge spectrum of frequency and amount), hate it because of paranoia, or a straight up Jesus freak.

I realize there are people who just somehow don't like it, but to look down on it in general just screams like a group of people that are no fun.

And for what it's worth, concerts are fun but exhausting, board games are AMAZING (I'm still sad about all the games I have that I can't play anymore for now because I lost the group of roommates I had)

Most of them weren't mine but I owned a few favorites and they're just sitting in a storage shed now :'(

Survival I'm ok with, not a huge fan. RTS though I can't stand as a genre. I grew up on games where you push a button, and something moves. Simulation, strategy, any genre where you're managing resources and stuff just totally doesn't sit with me.

At least in video games. Board games that do that kinda thing are fine usually.

[–] BoxOfFeet@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

I could conceded that my wife and I may be a little uptight, but most of our group is atheist or at least agnostic. So, just an internal uptightness. Lol.

Man, I also miss having a group of board game buddies too. Most of us have toddlers or kindergarteners now, and free time is extremely limited. Later this month we do have a kid free game night I'm really looking forward to. I have some weird old ones nobody has ever played I bust out from time to time to break up the long-form modern games we would normally do, like Arkham Horror.

I mostly grew up with 2D platformers and racing games, but I don't play them hardly at all anymore. I think part of the appeal of RTS and survival games for me is the freedom. There's no path to follow, you just wander anywhere and do whatever you want. Games like The Forest, and Fallout 3, and Seven Days to Die are among my faves currently. And for RTS, I like Battlezone II and I've dabbled in some Red Alert. I prefer open world freedom in my shooters, too. My favorites are Battlefield 1942 and all of its fantastic mods, and Star Wars Battlefront 2 (the original, not the EA one). But I pretty much play everything solo, with bots. I don't want to play with internet strangers, and it's rare I get people over for a LAN party.

If you want to try any old board games that don't get enough love, I recommend Score Four, Twixt, and TouchΓ©.

[–] wheeldawg@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Damn now that's the first time I've felt young in the Internet in a while. Arkham Horror was the first "real" board game I ever heard of when I first played, and what launched my interest in it at all. So calling it modern got me lol. I'm not sure if that was the oldest game we played, but it well might be.

[–] BoxOfFeet@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I'd say anything college or later is modern to me. Probably why I still have a Windows XP gaming PC. XD

[–] wheeldawg@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

XP was a huge advancement at its time, but I can't imagine running it today on the Internet at least.

I remember those keyboards from computer labs at college though.

[–] BoxOfFeet@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

They had those keyboards in my college labs, too. And those monitors. It's not bad for a membrane kb. And I like how they look, which is the big reason I did a Dell build. Well, other than the fact that I got the tower at a flea market for like, $20.

Oh, you can't do shit on the internet these days. Lol. I don't know of a single browser for it that supports https. I tried installing Steam on it, but the last client supported for it can't connect anymore. I could probably still play some LAN games with it, but it's really just for me solo.

[–] wheeldawg@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 months ago

A true vintage.