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The day my mom passed after a 2 year battle with cancer. My wife and I were running all day, from something like 5am. We finally get home about midnight and realize we hadn't eaten anything at all that day. We look in the cupboards, fridge, etc and there is absolutely nothing but a single can of chef boyardee ravioli. We were so tired, we stood at the kitchen sink eating them cold, right out of the can. About half way though the can we both started crying as we hadn't let the emotions touch us yet. So through our tears of grief, we ate cold ravioli out of a can.
Condolences, that really sucks.
There wasn't sad food to go along with it but, my wife and I had a very similar experience. My nephew passed away after 3 months of trying to repair a heart defect (HLHS specifically). My SIL, her husband and, her other kids had been living with for the past six months because we lived near the hospital he was treated at. Their extended family spent a lot of nights with us as well.
The day after he passed away, they all went home. My wife and I are child free so we were just alone in this quiet, empty house that had been loud and crowded since we found out our nephew was going to be born with a bad heart. The weight of the past months hit us all at once and we sat there sobbing for what felt like hours. It's been like three years and I still get teary thinking about it.
It's tough when you have to be there as support for others. You realize you never had time to process things and then it all hits at once. This was nearly 20 years ago now and it's still one of the worst feelings. I'm sorry you and your family had to go through this, and I hope healing has happened for all involved.