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What do you mean by "misandry"?
If you mean "women venting about their experiences in a male-dominated world", then I don't give a shit. I just try not to be the reason they're complaining.
If you mean unrealistic emotional expectations for men, like we're not allowed to cry or be sensitive or feel any emotion but anger, it frustrates me. I don't really know how to handle it.
Ironically, I’ve only experienced the second one from other men.
Same, actually.
Not the first one.
I wasn't thinking the second but that would be an example. I would say conversations with men over this topic is a lot easier than you would expect. There is support there. Bringing up with women who want a men to not cry or be sensitive can be difficult.
I'd refer to "toxic masculinity" or "the manosphere" if that's what you meant.
I mean, I think there’s a time and a place for crying and it’s not usually in public, but if you are among a support network, then by all means.
That said, after a devastating breakup for me, I have cried in public, at a party, among strangers, and it sucked.
What I would like to see is just more camaraderie in general. Not bro culture per se, just more, social events. Kinda like the beer halls of yesteryear in Germany or the Shriners clubs. I feel like a lot of these rotaries, lions, etc, just have kind of fallen away in most towns, particularly for young people, and I really think we are losing a piece of our community because of it.
Meetups used to fill some of that gap for me, but it’s been way too long (and two moves) since I’ve been to one. And I’m not the type to go to church (believe me, I tried - the whole women lesser than men thing around here really turned me off).
I’m one of those weirdos, 50/50 introvert extrovert. And now with a family, it’s tougher than ever.
My gf used to say "i hate men" all the time. I have to stare at her for minutes until she realized I am also a man and she changes subjects sheepishly...