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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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I'm sorta large and I find Torrid has things in my sizes (esp. helpful for shoes!!), but they're more expensive than some places. I've also heard good things about https://www.thredup.com/
As someone who shops at both, Torrid is a godsend for shoes. They have sales and clearance pretty often with a great selection. Also having the shoes come in wide by default is very helpful.
As for ThredUp it's a great way to get good clothes for cheap. It's basically online thrifting. I've gotten some really high end dresses there for cheap. I've only had a couple issues, mainly with an order going missing (which sucks because it was the first time I've splurged on designer jeans) and issues with store credit being issued through a third party gift card service which was kind of weird. While the selection is good sometimes the styles can be a bit "dated" so definitely don't use it to chase style trends.
Over all though both are pretty great and have a good selection!
I agree about the styles on ThredUp, I had a hard time finding stuff I loved in my size. I need to go back to it, but I have some cognitive dissonance about shopping, so when I finally feel like doing it, I'm usually overdo and I end up shopping places like pact and Torrid.
You're right about the shoes, btw - I don't really know anywhere else to get shoes 😅