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What's an immediate turn off in a person? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 months ago by TheArstaInventor@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] skatrek47@sh.itjust.works 68 points 3 months ago (2 children)

+1 to being rude to service staff Also MAGA apparel or citing Jesus/God constantly

[–] John_McMurray@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

It depends. I run a bar and also frequent bars. I see a lot of behavior from wait staff I'd fire them for. Wait staff endlessly bitch about customers but its a two way street, staff develops a blind spot to their own behavior due to spending so much time in a bar.

[–] Randomgal@lemmy.ca 0 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Bro they are working in a high intensity environment. You are there to have fun. They are talking behind your back. (So how does that affect you?) Versus actively being a jerk to someone just doing their job (which is, unfortunately, to engage with you). It's not the same.

[–] John_McMurray@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Are you really trying to explain running a bar to me? Anyways your answer is horseshit. I work in that high intensity environment and see the blinders go on. Innocuous requests by customers turn into staff acting like it's a massive imposition. They openly talk to me because they've been at my bar, served by me, and I know who's I'd hire and I wouldn't from the free talk.

[–] Randomgal@lemmy.ca -4 points 3 months ago

Cool story bro.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 3 months ago

Can I interest you in this Chick Tract?