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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Foidi@beehaw.org to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org

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Hi! I am making that post to ask for help and your opinions. I am prety much fully transitioned socially, as I use my chosen name, pronouns, dress femme and stuff like that. But I still get taken as a man most of the time due to my voice and facial hair, and there comes my question. I am not sure what bathrooms I should be using? Coz on the one hand I try to look as passing as I can, but on the other I clearly dont yet, so I am worried about geting is some unpleasent situation. Especialy that I can tell by the way people treat me that they are more willing to accept just a dude dressed in womans clothing, rather than trans girl. What should I do? :c

Update: I have gathered courage and have dacided to use them, coz well I am a girl and I gotta start geting used to it

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[–] flora_explora@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Depends on where you live and how hostile people are. I'm in a very similar position as you (although my facial hair is barely visible) and get misgendered frequently. But I've never been looked at weird in any women's bathroom in Germany, Spain, the UK or any airport. Women/other people there were always either ignorant or friendly to me.

It took me a lot of time to even dare to go to women's bathrooms because I felt like an intruder. But it gets easier the more you are used to it. And remember, you are not an intruder and this space is yours as well! Cis people don't have the right to police you. The only issue is that they may be hostile depending where you live, so that should be the only issue where I would consider not going to the women's bathroom.

You got this! :)