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Do people actually get upset if you forget their name? (lemmy.sdf.org)

submitted 5 months ago by xia@lemmy.sdf.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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If so, does that mean people actually remember a persons name & face after only one encounter?!

If not, why do we pretend they will be upset, and try to hide the fact that we forget an unfamiliar name?

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[–] Hikermick@lemmy.world 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

It happens. Half the time people get bummed, the other half they are OK with it and will tell you they have a hard time remembering names too. I am in the latter group. When I forget a name and the person is obviously upset I'll tell them "let me tell you something few people beside my wife know about me, I have this social anxiety that yadayadayada...". This usually smooths things out as I've shown a vulnerable side and nice people sympathize with that. If they don't fuck em