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Advice on finding a partner? (lemm.ee)

submitted 6 months ago by lemmylem@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I just got ghosted by the girl I was talking to, I want to find another girl to talk to. This girl and I met at the gym, but I don't want to be the guy that goes to the gym just to meet girls. I mean sure there's the bar and Tinder, but I want a real relationship. I mean, I guess it'll come to me.

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[–] datavoid@lemmy.ml 20 points 6 months ago (2 children)

It took me like 5 years of heavy app use to finally meet my wife. I met a few nice people in that time, but the process was honestly extremely depressing and difficult.

I hate dating app culture... but I also have some social anxiety which makes meeting anyone organically virtually impossible.

[–] egonallanon@lemm.ee 4 points 6 months ago

For me the apps just ain't worth it so I got rid of them. There's a whole sense of commodification abiut that that's just awful and I find I'm happier without them.

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world -1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

That's dating in general for most folks, apps or not. It takes a lot of time and investment and risk.