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Advice on finding a partner? (lemm.ee)

submitted 6 months ago by lemmylem@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I just got ghosted by the girl I was talking to, I want to find another girl to talk to. This girl and I met at the gym, but I don't want to be the guy that goes to the gym just to meet girls. I mean sure there's the bar and Tinder, but I want a real relationship. I mean, I guess it'll come to me.

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[–] user224@lemmy.sdf.org 11 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I just got ghosted by the girl I was talking to

I am sorry, but are you sure it isn't accidental?

I might have accidentally done something like that in the past myself to someone. I have 0 social skills and I am terrible at understanding relationships between people and picking up social cues correctly.
I feel like I just completely misunderstood the situation so I entirely stopped talking with that person (if that's what "ghosting" refers to).

[–] Azzu@lemm.ee -4 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

It's definitely not accidental. Ghosting simply doesn't happen if someone is truly interested romantically. They might be like "this guy's nice" and be accidentally ghosting, but in that case it's not a good romantic relationship anyway. If it's "this guy's so hot/amazing", accidental ghosting will not happen, because the thoughts will be occupied in trying to be with the guy.

[–] user224@lemmy.sdf.org 8 points 6 months ago (1 children)

It's also possible she's going through something bad and doesn't want to pull OP into that.

There's no way to tell with a lack of any communication, and assuming stuff is inaccurate.

[–] Azzu@lemm.ee 2 points 6 months ago

Of course, but then it's still not the kind of accidental ghosting you talked about.