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Is There a Way to Officially Disable a Lemmy Account? (feddit.nl)

submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by myxi@feddit.nl to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I would like to know if there is an "official" way to set an account as disabled. For now, I am plan on posting this on Asklemmy, changing my password to some random string that I won't remember, and then logging out. If I'd like to come back later, there's a chance of my account being revived through the "forgot password" process.

I am leaving Lemmy for good. I have spent a few months here, and the first few months were nice and positive. But now it feels much more Reddit-like. Most active communication here is happening at posts that I find negative. All this negative stuff is detoriating my mental health. I'd instead prefer to stay happy and remain ignorant until I personally experience the issues being raised here.

Of course, a lot of people will disagree with this approach, and they are likely already coming up with comments to post on this thread that I'd find rude and thus negative. But I've seriously had enough of it.

I have a heavily filtered Reddit with a home page filled with people like me. The communities they are part of either don't exist on Lemmy or are not sufficiently active. I will be active with these people until the old Reddit front-end reaches EoL. Please prefer to answer the first paragraph over the rest.

PS: please don't judge me by my comments on my profile. I am a teenager and my personality is still maturing. I cringe at most things I do the next day after doing them.

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[–] BolexForSoup@kbin.social 21 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

I know you’re going to feel like this thread validates how you’re feeling, but I do encourage you to look at it from our point of view: wanting to delete your account for your own mental health/because you aren’t enjoying this site is valid. Nobody can force you to stay or like this place. But a lot of this post seems more like you wanted to soapbox about your concerns under the guise of “help me delete my account.”

Given your title is pretty straightforward and asking for a technical solution, a lot of people are going to come in here out of curiosity or out of a desire to help you. So imagine their reaction when 3/4 of the post is not exactly a manifesto, but certainly a lengthy indictment of sorts that is squarely directed at us, the community, as the problem. We also don’t have context for who or what you’re upset about besides “politics.”

Lines like this one are unproductive and actively poking the bear if your goal is positivity and productive interactions:

Of course, a lot of people will disagree with this approach, and they are likely already coming up with comments to post on this thread that I’d find rude and thus negative. But I’ve seriously had enough of it.

I’m sure there are things in here we all need to hear. And yes, unfortunately Internet forums tend to bring out a little more negativity in people. I am certainly guilty of that at times. But I do urge you to consider what your reaction would be if you stumbled across a post like this yourself.

Also given the number of us who came here because of Reddit’s terrible management and utter disdain for their own users, throwing out that you are leaving here for Reddit is not exactly going to engender sympathy. Especially if your primary concern is quality of conversation, negativity, and politics showing up in every thread.