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For the first point, does it help if the person repeating it acknowledges that they were just repeating what you said? I find that in conversations in general sometimes people don't get heard so I try to repeat what they said so it can be heard but I always try to start along the lines of "Going back to what you said...".
For the other two I completely understand and I think it's just a weird form of gatekeeping.
It's not as bad when it's started with like, "I agree with x" or "What if we did what x said but with " or something, sure. They usually don't though, almost never. And then everyone at the table acts as if the person who said it came up with it and it's infuriating.
Edit - I might not be clear. The person suggesting the idea I had is generally not boosting it so it's heard, they are generally acting as if they came up with it, and then everyone suddenly realizes it's a good idea coming from a guy instead. When it's someone realizing the idea wasn't heard, they usually don't do that.
I can only imagine how frustrating that must be. I'm sorry that a lot of men are probably subconsciously really shitty and just don't have the care and self awareness to do anything about that.