Unpopular Opinion
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1. NO POLITICS
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Bruh u gotta stop caring what random dickheads think. Fuck em what are they gonna do not invite ya to a party have your own party with your better friends who get what sarcasm is.
I appreciate what you're saying, but trust me, it was me. A classic case of "If you walk around town all day and all you smell is shit, check the bottom of your shoe." When people came back to talk to me at my job I thought I was joking, when really my form of joking was a very dry sarcasm that could easily be taken offensively. I just never knew it.
I learned to introduce it slowly over time, see how people react to it. If they pick up on it then I'm cleared to keep going, but to never assume that someone will pick up on it by default.
I agree but also want to point out that as social animals we can't help but care what others think of us. You'd need to be a psychopath to not care and I believe that even they do because being liked makes it easier to get what you want.
You right as social animals we do have a need for human connection (to be liked as u said) but that need can be fullfilled by our friends as we do for them. I dont see why u need everyone to like you i find it very freeing that i can be hated by someone and not care because i know that i have friends who do care. As some motherfucker once said if you can count your good freinds on one hand you know they are real freinds or something along those lines anything more is an excersise in vanity.
Being liked often does get you what you want or at least makes it easyer. I suspect that phychopaths are constantly weighing up how much they need you but then again phycopathy often does come with narsasism which tends to give people a need to be loved homelander and trump are excellent examples of narsasism leading to the need to be loved.