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How do I put this? If this is how you respond to criticism, and that's what you've clearly shown repeatedly to do, then you should not be in any leadership position.
You do not apologize even when you admit to be wrong, you blame others instead of taking responsibilities for anything that was said here. It's entirely a dismissive response. You might not have noticed but people do not feel valued at all when they speak to Lemmy's developers. Their input is dismissed, they are told to make issues that you do not care for and when they ask for something to be better prioritized, you effectively tell them to fuck off. You make people feel that their time and effort towards Lemmy is worthless.
With the way you've acted, you have pushed back people from making issues, from contributing in code or otherwise, from wanting to host Lemmy and wanting to be associated with the project. Sincerely, all I can hope at this point is for Lemmy to be forked by better people or to be forgotten about.
I remember Beehaw wanted to switch away from Lemmy to another platform months ago. I encourage you to do that and point your demands and entitlement at someone else. We have enough users who actually appreciate our work.
respectfully (and as someone who has not paid attention to this thread outside of my one comment): i am continually failing to understand how asking you guys to give us better moderation tools to do our jobs--which is our primary reason we're even looking elsewhere and, if resolved, would likely placate about 90% of the problem we have with continuing to use your software--is entitlement. we're basically handing you a silver platter entitled "hey, here is our problem, and here is how you can keep us on Lemmy in the long term" and you guys seem to just not take that seriously at all? and now you seem to want to debate us out of thinking it's an issue while simultaneously telling us to fuck off for investing in your software at all!
What makes you think that I want you to to keep using Lemmy? As far as I remember, Beehaw admins have only brought negativity and complaints to Lemmy development. You have never made any code contributions and based on your attitude I doubt that you donate any money. You need to realize that having more users on Lemmy gives us zero benefits, in fact more users means more work. So if you leave Lemmy it means less work and less complaints for us. Meanwhile Beehaw users who like Lemmy can easily switch to another instance.
i mean, if your response to a community which has stuck by your software for over two years now and hasn't even publicly committed to leaving is "fuck you" because you don't like that we are vocally opinionated on our problems, frictions, and perceived deficiencies with your software—yeah, why would we ever do anything to help you guys? you're strongly vindicating us here in supposedly "never ma[king] any code contributions" or "donat[ing] any money" (and i'm just going to grant you that for the sake of argument, i'm not even sure it's true). i'm not going to contribute to someone's software when they're openly contemptuous of me for trying to make their software better.
if i was on the fence previously about the upthread critique that you guys are kind of assholes to anybody who dissents about what you think should be the way forward, i am no longer. all i can say further is that you are acting severely out of pocket here as a spokesperson for the software and as a community manager and i would strongly encourage you to log off at this point before you say something that make your community relations even worse than they already are.
We gain nothing from you using Lemmy. It's free software, a free meal that we're providing freely to anyone as a public service.
Don't like it? Don't eat it!
You really think I should be grateful that you stuck by my software? Why arent you grateful for the years of work I put into this software, and for allowing you to use it for free? There are many instances which have "stuck by" Lemmy for years, such as hexbear or lemmygrad, and none of them ever showed the sort of entitled attitude that beehaw admins have.
Again I dont have any obligation or even incentive to do any work for you specifically. If you dont like how I act as "spokesperson" or "community manager" (in reality Im an open source maintainer), then stop using Lemmy and go to Sublinks, Reddit or any other platform.
i don't care about debating this with you. i will, as a concluding remark, just note incredible irony in lecturing about entitlement while simultaneously demanding gratitude for your work from people you literally just told to fuck off from this service three replies ago. in very blunt terms: i think you are getting the exact level of gratitude you deserve from us after this exchange, which is none. my experiences with you have been thoroughly unpleasant, unkind, and paint you as a toxic person and it is my view that your "years of work put into this software" are meaningless in the face of the blatant disrespect you show members of your community.
If my work on Lemmy is meaningless then please stop using it. You cant have it both ways.
Interesting choices. Often it doesnt seem like they would be using the more advanced moderation tools anyway. Its just natural that they dont complain about something missing they dont need.
I think this is a pretty clear example of what I mean when I say that my work was never valued.
I did do work that was non-code - I labeled tons of issues, closed duplicates and those which had already been fixed.
I did try to write code contributions (here and here). One of which was rejected based on purely aesthetic preferences and whose follow-up PR was made dormant forever afterwards.
I tried to help and contribute in the ways I could - apparently this work is just "negativity and complaints".
Changing a total of three lines is hardly worth mentioning. The issue labeling was somewhat helpful, but in the end this task should be done by someone who is familiar with the code. And anyway it was too risky to continue this after relations with beehaw soured. So yes there were some positive contributions, but they dont outweigh the negativity and complaints.
As a professional software I know that the actual typing is hardly any of the work - let alone on someone else's code!
And you're a developer too, so you know this. This minimising of his contributions comes across as you arguing in bad faith, not to mention backing up the complaints about your hostile attitude.
https://beehaw.org/comment/884681