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i just don't understand. We left off positively.
I noticed for the sending receipts they used to show two checkmarks but now just one :(
I checked message info and one moment they say delivered , the next message it only registers as sent
This behavior kind of feels borderline neurotic. I'd just give them some space, and try not to hyperfixate.
Honestly, dude, im leaving it be. Nothing actively done. This is my best friend I thougt I had, please try tk stop being a dick, how can you not get why I woulnd't be super distressed and invested in this
I literally have no choice in any case so please stop. I'm not asking for people to enable me, im just asking for understanding and...i dont effing no...good night everyone, i just dontknow anymore
Sorry.
Fwiw, as long as you're not spamming them or anything I don't think there's anything neurotic here. There's nothing wrong with being emotionally invested in a friendship, or being stressed out about signs it might have ended or changed.
At the same time, because I know nothing about you or your friend, I feel compelled to reference one of my favorite pieces of advice from a classic rock song: "hold on loosely, but don't let go. If you cling too tightly, you might lose control." Meaning holding on too tightly to someone might be off-putting whether them distancing themself was intentional or not. Your best bet might just be to demonstrate your independence as a person and wait to see what happens.
Oh I absolutey am cutting him loose as he's done to me until he answers for it, we're going on 3 months soon so that is unacceptable to not recognizing someone and preventing them from contacting them. At some point, there is only one explanation and at the end of the day, I feel my time is more valuable than ceding freely to someone who objectively makes it impossible to touch base with em and letting me waste more time finding out what the deal is.
Even then, if he wants to be balding baby about it, he's probably out anyway. I've grown tired of (t)his bullshit
One tick means sent, two means delivered.
There are a lot of reasons you might be seeing only one tick, but it does mean they're not getting your messages.
I've wondered the same thing about my friend too, but we just saw each other a few days ago for the first time in nearly ten years and everything was fine, just like it always was, even though I missed him terribly in the meantime.
It's hard staying in touch. If you have an email address for them, just reach out occasionally to let them know you're thinking of them. They'll be back in touch when they can. And if not, well, like you said it's not worth getting upset over anyway, and there's no shortage of things that are worth getting upset over to hold your attention!
Did he delete the app or block me tho?
Does blocking cause the one tix?
Yes, a single tick will be displayed if you are blocked.
Honestly, just leave it for now. If they don't see your messages in a couple of days, ask a mutual friend or something. But for now, I don't think it would be good to attempt further contact, or worry about it too much.
Also only if it was sent but they havent opened app yet. A family member i know would never block me hasnt opened one yet :)
I use signal a lot and sometimes people's phones will stop signal from running in the background. This can cause the behaviour you're seeing, as their phone wont receive the messages until they open the app manually
Its been objectively a long time tho
How long? A week? More?
Two months