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People who had a quarter-life crisis in their 20's, did you do right to stress? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Without going into too much detail...

21
Dropped out of Uni (ie. I've started falling behind 'the pack')
Still living with my parents (have lived alone for periods)
Frustrated, have been repeating the same mistakes and life is currently going in a loop.
Not fully settled on a specific career
Thinking of a couple of nuclear options I could try to move things on.

I want to know if I have reason to stress or if I should just give it time and enjoy the ride. Seeing as any sort of renewed degree-pursuing will eat up another several years starting anew from square one.

Edit: Thanks for all of this life advice everyone. It is genuinely really reassuring

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[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Oh you're always "right" to stress about life. Life is fucking hard, and full of problems, and if you aren't neck deep in problems in your life it's because you're unconscious.

But for that very same reason, you're always "right" to skip the stress and just get on with the next task. If you have a hard time doing that, I suggest drawing a map of the meaning in your life.

If you don't know how to do that, look for a class called "Maps of Meaning" and watch it. It's a free course, published on youtube. No homework or anything; just all the lectures videotaped and published on youtube.

That one course has done more to make my life functional than anything else I've encountered.

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 1 points 9 months ago

I'll give it a watch. Sourcing meaning from the right things has indeed been one of my missteps in the past. Music sometimes inspires visions in my head, and my brain saw them as memories, except in the future and they gave me meaning. The bubble burst when I waited for them to happen/tried to make them happen, and they didn't.