Neurodivergence

I am sorry about your experiences, and I agree that your condition puts you at a disadvantage.

But I disagree that neurotypical students have a privilege in this regard. What you are describing is an issue you will be facing everywhere, not just at university. Being able to socialize is a valuable skill in almost every setting, because humans are social animals, and many things in society revolve around personal relationships. Much of your later career will depend on who you know, and how much your (potential) bosses like you.

We should try to make things more accessible, but ultimately what puts you at a disadvantage isn't so much a rigged system, as your condition itself.

To draw a parallel: Blind people are at an extreme disadvantage, and we should try to make things as accessible to them as we can. But in the end humans are visual beings, many things in society will naturally revolve around sight. A society in which blind people are at no disadvantage whatsoever is just not feasable, because in the end they just have one ability less than everyone else.

Or another, more personal one: I suffer from migraines. Each month I spend 2-4 days in bed in pain and vomitting. It would be nice if that didn't put me at a disadvantage, but I don't see how that would work. I too believe that I "deserved a better experience", but the fault lies with my condition, not people not accomodating for it enough.