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What small piece of advice you would like to give that isn't heard enough ? (lemmy.world)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by Vcio@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Computer related:

Don't be your family computer savy guy, you just found yourself a bunch payless jobs...
Long desks are cool and all, but the amount the space they occupy is not worth it.
Block work related phone calls at weekends, being disturbed at your leisure for things that could be resolved on Mondays will sour your day.

Buying stuff:

There is expensive because of brand and expensive because of material quality, do your research.
Buck buying is underrated, save yourself a few bucks, pile that toilet paper until the ceiling is you must.
Second hand/broken often means never cleaned, lubricated or with easy fixable problem.

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[–] Adalast@lemmy.world 13 points 10 months ago

I think my favorite allegory is the "We'll See Farmer".

Once upon a time, there was an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. “Such bad luck,” they said sympathetically, “you must be so sad.” “We’ll see,” the farmer replied. The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it two other wild horses. “How wonderful,” the neighbors exclaimed. “Not only did your horse return, but you received two more. What great fortune you have!” “We’ll see,” answered the farmer. The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune. “Now your son cannot help you with your farming,” they said. “What terrible luck you have!” “We’ll see,” replied the old farmer. The following week, military officials came to the village to conscript young men into the army. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out. “Such great news. You must be so happy!” The man smiled to himself and said once again. “We’ll see.”

Only time can yield the ramifications of an event. There is no luck, good or bad. Things happen. On balance, they are neither good nor bad, just events to be dealt with. Be patient and continue doing the best you are able to with any given circumstances. I have always tried to keep a goal in mind and move through life's circumstances in the vague direction of those goals. Things have happened that have ended up having positive impacts, and things have had negative. None of them were clear at the time and only in hindsight can I see which were which.