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[serious] What are your most important boundaries you've learned to enforce? (lemmy.world)

submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by cheese_greater@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Nobody tells me what I'm going to do or where I will be going and when that happens

I am open to invitations or requests or suggestions where my involvement is desired or ostensibly necesary for somone else. But I will never respond to this as a statement of fact or in the form of a threat

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[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

If its my turn to ask a question, and the other actively chooses to not answer that question, have had plenty of time and opportunity to do so, and they don't articulate why they are unable to answer, I respectfully decline to continue engaging on the topic and with that person. There's either something intentional or unintentional happening, both of which indicates its not safe.

If they have a good-faith concern relevant to the matter and they put it at the end (after they have answered that which was solicited) I am often more than happy and open to engage and continue in that vein of discussion