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A better question is why do you feel the need to die on the hill of using slurs?
Because swearing is a natural part of the human experience and most level headed people don’t feel the need to suppress human expression.
Swearing serves an important biological need to express emotion and communicate. Psychologically, we swear to express strong emotions and when people swear, they are inherently viewed as more trustworthy or honest. Swearing helps people bond.
I think there’s some miscommunication here. You’re the only person in this thread that brought up slurs. Everyone else is talking about swear words which is a different thing. I don’t think anyone here is saying slurs aren’t bad. What people are saying is it should be ok to use swear words, which you just demonstrated with your comment.
I'm not confused, misogo is so rampant that people don't even consider them to be slurs, kind of like what used to happen to ableist slurs.
I'm willing to bet a good amount of people in this comment section used to use ableist slurs before they were told not to, because they treat slurs as "words I'm not allowed to say" rather than genuinely not wanting to hurt the groups that said slurs are targeting.
"Bitch" is not a slur. It is a swear. Swears are fine, slurs are not. They are not equivelant, and shouldn't be treated as such.
I hate ml mods as much as the next guy, but also I would consider "bitch" to be kinda misogynistic in certain context.
The same can be said of any gendered term. That's honestly a comment on the context more than the word.
If you say the word bitch is as offensive as the f slur, t slur or n word, then you're saying those slurs are as harmless as the word bitch. If you believe that, I am offended by you. Do not put them in the same group.
see the problem I have here is by banning a word that is used as a slur maybe once every 1000 times you remove the 999 times it was not used as a slur, thereby making the situation worse rather than better. Banning words does fuck all to promote a healthier culture, all it does is make the vultures migrate to the next word they load up with negative connotations
Holy fucking hell. What kind of pearl clutching Victorian era bullshit is that?
because fuck you? /s
Why do you feel the need to bitch about it?
Rape culture.
No.
But thank you for establishing the fact you lack the cognitive capacity to engage this thread in good faith.
Whatever, rapist.
Oooh, harder daddy