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Had a pretty good weekend but decided I needed to call off today. We just made through one of our busiest seasons last week, had my birthday this weekend, Thanksgiving coming this week at my cousins house, who passed away last week. My best friend who passed away a few years ago, her bday is tomorrow. I decided I wanted to skip my meds and enjoy coffee and an empty house after everyone else left for work. I wallowed in some some sorrow and some past due self care. Then did some house care for feeling guilty playing hooky. I'm in my 40s and I think this is the first actual mental health day I have ever taken from work. It was kinda nice in the end. Felt really productive overall for a caffeine over meds day in the middle of some crazy stressors.
Whew. Thanks for the safe space to kinda tell all this to. I'm winding down so I can prepare for my new start of the week and this helped to share and kinda get it out.
I hope all of you have a wonderful week and if celebrating, stay safe in that holiday traffic and enjoy some good food!
Well, shit, I hope you will do it again before another 40 years go by! It sounds like you carved out a little piece of calm and quiet for yourself today, even though it did involve some sorrow and grief, too. I guess that's life, nothing is ever black and white. You did some self-care and still felt productive, overall that's a win in my book. May your week start off as smoothly as it can tomorrow!
Thanks so much! I will def do it again if things come up. It was way better than being zoned out at work, making errors and getting more anxious about those consequences. I hope your week has started awesomely and continues through the holidays!
Oh, thank you - my week is relaxing so far, and I am quite happy right now. Awesome to have this community and people who care!
Regarding taking mental health days, my favorite saying is "every time you say 'No' to something, you are saying 'Yes' to something else." If you are saying No to work on those days, you are saying Yes to yourself and self-care, and vice versa. I don't know why, but it stuck with me. We tend to only fret about one side and not focus on the other, but you need to consider both to make a decision.
Well put! I like that and will try and remember it for the next time I'm feeling anguish over my choices!