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If I am forcing myself to do it, it's not a hobby. I already have hobbies that I want to do and they take over all of my free time. All of them are best done at home and alone.
If your goal is to make friends and your current way isn't working, you will have to force yourself to change. There just isn't any other way.
Friends don't fall from the sky. You have to put in time and effort in any type of human relationship. That is just how things are.
He didn't say his goal was to make friends. I'm the same way, and I'm happier than I've ever been putting my efforts into myself instead of other people.
How could you know that? Do you ask every acquaintance about their emotional support?
I've actually found that process to be frustrating more than anything. Distraction and exercise are far more effective coping methods for me. Venting just gets me worked up all over again.
Okay, maybe try striking up conversations during slow times at work? It doesn't have to be a hobby, that's just one of the better ways in many cases.