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[–] favrion@beehaw.org 28 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I didn't realize that public places for queer folk had so much alcohol involved.

[–] Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 24 points 1 year ago (3 children)

And so many people want to go out drinking when you first meet up with them too

I've been sober for 5 years and it's kinda tough at times

[–] gk99@beehaw.org 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

We should normalize stocking products like Liquid Death at bars for people who don't want to drink and need a product that's so visually wild that nobody will think "oh that's literally water in a can."

[–] w3dd1e@lemm.ee 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I saw a comic who spoke about telling the bartender before shows to put tea in his glass instead. Even if people order a shot for him, it should just be tea. It looked enough like alcohol that no one would make a big deal about it.

It’s wild that you can’t just be like “I want tea” without it becoming a whole thing.

[–] Zoop@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago

I've known a lot of strippers and dancers to do the same type of thing. It's a good idea.

[–] w3dd1e@lemm.ee 6 points 1 year ago

This. I’m not completely sober but I did get myself in trouble a couple times after moving to a new city where I didn’t know anyone. The only way to meet people was at a bar and when I did make friends with my interests, again, it was always meeting up at a bar.

I get it. Where are you going to go after work when other places are closing and it’s dark outside.

my social anxiety made it all worse. What do I do with my hands? I guess I’ll hold a drink. I hated the whole thing. Now, I’m in my 30s and I barely leave my house. Dogs are better than people. 😊

[–] 30p87@feddit.de 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Just get some disease diagnosed, then say the meds for it don't allow alcohol. Works for me since a year lol

[–] RoseTintedGlasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

[I got a bot to automatically delete all my comments over 1 month old so you can't see this comment anymore]

[–] favrion@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

I didn't make that connection, but thank you for informing me.