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Hey, as an NB, I'd appreciate it if you didn't use your experience to speak on mine. Being GNC isn't the same as NB, so please stop conflating the two. I'm closer to a binary trans person in my life than I am to a GNC cis person, so please don't speak in absolutes here. I am absolutely trans, I consider myself trans wholeheartedly, and anyone who says I'm not trans rightfully can fuck off. If you experience being non-binary in a way that's seemingly indistinguishable from being a GNC cis person, that's you. I'm not going to police how you identify, so don't do the same for the broader NB community.
That is valid, thank you for your response. I want to offer a sincere apology for causing any discomfort; I misunderstood GNC as an umbrella term under which NB falls, similar to how "queer" is an umbrella term for LGBTQIA+ in general. Now I understand that GNC is more a lifestyle rather than an identity, and not a superset as I initially thought.
Regarding my own identity, I don't outwardly present as GNC, but despite having masc pronouns, being referred to as a "man" makes my skin crawl, and I'm not fond of having facial hair. I don't feel comfortable identifying as "trans", and as a counterexample, that would suggest not all NB are trans and thus it isn't a strict superset. However, this is just my personal experience and understanding, and I acknowledge that others might feel and experience their identities differently. I know there's a diverse range of experiences and identities within the NB and trans communities, and it isn't my place to define who should or should not identify as trans.
Also for what it's worth, I'm not deeply engaged with NB communities, so my knowledge is lacking. Please correct me when I've used inappropriate language or expressed misunderstandings. I am here to learn and understand better. I appreciate your patience and willingness to correct my misunderstanding, and am glad I can be more sensitive and informed moving forward.
Thank you for understanding.