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Its up to you and your partner to find a arrangement that works for both of you and makes you both happy. It really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
Expenses equal by amount of contributions
Expenses equal by % of income contributions
Expenses equal by time required to make the money
or any other division of labor and income
When my wife and I got together, she made double what I did. It didn't necessarily make me feel guilty or bad, but I definitely felt the need to contribute. So, I took over food. I meal plan, do groceries, cook and clean up for essentially 100% of meals. On a rare occasion she'll want a meal on the weekends that I don't care for and she will buy and cook the meal. I also do 100% of the maintenance outside the house.
In general, she takes care of the big bills and I get the little ones, plus all the manual labor.