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Do you think monogamy will always be the main "form" of earth or do we just break someday this code and just "do whatever we want" (lemmy.world)

submitted 11 months ago by Violett_Queen@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Will this one-by-one system forever be our main thing or do you think we will break monogamy and maybe "team up" as groups or something?

And yeah polygamy is a thing but do you think it will catch on to "the upper class"?

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[–] BassTurd@lemmy.world 11 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Is cheating and having secret partners considered polyamory? If so, then it certainly exists abundantly amongst all classes.

[–] June@lemm.ee 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)

A core tenant of polyamory is consent. Without consent from all partners to be in multiple relationships, it’s just infidelity.

So no, secret partners isn’t polyamory. Polyamory is a form of ethical, or consensual, non-monogamy, and infidelity is both unethical and non consensual.

[–] ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Also you can be in a polyamorous relationship and still cheat. It all depends on what structure people are consenting to, where everyone's boundaries are. Granted it is more rare but it still happens sometimes. For example I have a pretty strict boundary where I don't want any of my existing partners to start dating any of my new partners until I've had a chance to establish the relationship dynamic between me and the new person. I would consider any of my partners crossing this boundary to be a type of cheating.

[–] June@lemm.ee 2 points 11 months ago

yep, polyamory has redefined cheating for me and it's much more grounded now than it used to be. cheating is breaking established agreements. in a monogamous relationship that's typically defined as infidelity. in ENM it can be just about anything and it might be different with each and every partner. the key aspect is that there's a mutual agreement and that agreement was violated.

[–] Lesrid@lemm.ee 4 points 11 months ago

Serial monogamy. Each partnership is between two people but a person may seek multiple partnerships simultaneously or in sequence.