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Mine hit me with the “We're spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”

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[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 45 points 3 days ago (3 children)

While writing my master thesis my professor suddenly left the university. Noone ever really knew why and there was no official statement other than a short sentence on the website that Prof. XYZ has left the department. My master thesis was on hold while I had to find a new professor. My mother, who has always accused me of being lazy and lying, insisted that it was all a lie. When I pointed out the news on the university website, she said: "I don't know how you hacked the website and got it to display your lies, but I'm not falling for your deceit." I am not a computer science major, I studied linguistics.

[–] Kazumara@discuss.tchncs.de 26 points 3 days ago

I am not a computer science major, I studied linguistics.

We're not falling for your deceit, Noam Chomsky. You probably used some context-free grammar to hack the website.

[–] TheThrillOfTime@lemmy.ml 16 points 3 days ago (3 children)

You're in a masters program and your mom thinks you're lazy.....

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 6 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Well, according to her, university degrees are all worthless nowadays and "a masters is at a level a high school degree used to be at". She also told me my As were worthless because "everybody gets an A nowadays just for showing up to class".

[–] Kuma@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

I have a lot of respect for you! Keep being motivated and being ambitious!

[–] TheThrillOfTime@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

What are you supposed to do? Is there anything you could do that would be valuable in her eyes?

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Nope. I've been no contact for years, but when I still had contact, she just kept moving the goalpost. When I had good grades in school: They don't mean anything, only the grades for Abitur (A-Levels) count. When I had good grades in Abitur: It means nothing, noone will ever ask for your Abitur grades again. Only the university degree counts. When I had my bachelors: Bachelor is worthless, only the master is a REAL degree. When I had my master degree: The master degree is worthless.... And that's the point where I cut contact with her.

[–] Don_alForno@feddit.org 2 points 3 days ago

"What do you mean you're working? You're just sitting in your room all day."

[–] Ledericas@lemm.ee 2 points 3 days ago

just like the trope of asian parents, not good enough.

[–] bmpvy@feddit.org 9 points 3 days ago

don't we love a trusting parent