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When I was in the ICU for months and I asked my husband to please just tell me it would be ok and he told me no and that he “couldn’t lie anymore” - refused to give me even a drop of comfort in my most dire hour, being ok didn’t have to mean I would live but that he and the kids would soldier on and he would try for them but instead I just got a no and scolded for asking.
That's awful, but I want to believe it gave you extra willpower to recover, just to prove him wrong.
Spite is a hell of a motivator. I had an uncle who had only ~20% of his heart working after a heart attack and the doctors basically sent him home to die within months. That fucker lived for 5 years before it finally gave out.