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When did you realize your toxic loved one’s behavior wasn’t normal? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by AuroraGlamour@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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My ex would always yell at me for pointless stuff and make me cry in front of his friends. They didn’t even like him, they just tolerated him.

My sister’s friend would blame my sister for stupid things and try to say it’s my sister’s fault, not hers. She would yell at her too and try to pass it off as a joke.

(We are very much healing now 🫂 Not perfect, but healing)

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[–] eezeebee@lemmy.ca 17 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Tie between the time I threw my back out changing the car tires and it hurt so bad to breathe I had to lie flat on the ground, and she was mad because it delayed me driving her to go do laundry.

Or the time she was mad about me installing the air conditioner in our apartment to cool down (the cats loved it too), because, "It doesn't benefit ME". That was shortly after I asked her to start paying for half of the utilities while I was unemployed. I had been paying them all myself for 3+ years, including the two times she was unemployed in that period.