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Some people? Absolutely. Others? Just trying to connect (lemmy.world)
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[–] VitoRobles@lemmy.today 52 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

I don't have a problem when they bring it up either. It's when they dismiss my story to highlight theirs.

"Oh, you were in a car accident? That's NOTHING. I was in a REAL car accident where I nearly died."

"Your parents divorced? That's not even a real divorce. They just separated. My dad died. From the car accident."

"Oh, your house was on fire? You call that a fire? PATHETIC. My house was on fire after my mom drove her car into it, setting off a gas explosion, killing my father."

[–] krashmo@lemmy.world 9 points 2 days ago

I think sometimes people say things that come across that way in order to offer potentially helpful advice, not to one-up you. For example, if you had a minor house fire recently but my house had burned completely down at some point then I might tell you my story as both a way to let you know that I understand how difficult your situation is and offer assistance with what comes next. Dealing with insurance and replacing your stuff can be an overwhelming proposition. If I don't communicate the desire to help you particularly well then you may think I'm just trying to say that I had it worse when really I'm wanting to help you but am simply too awkward to do it effectively.

Obviously some people are trying to shift the focus off you and on to them but I think you should be able to tell someone's intentions with a quick follow up question to whatever they say. Something aimed at determining whether they want to help you or just talk more about them.

[–] Daefsdeda@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 days ago

I liked the storytelling, thanks!