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Someone called me a rapist for saying that I've choked women during sex. Consenting, adult women.
Please don't choke people during sex even consenting people. If you need the sensation just put your hands on their collarbone and don't actually cut off their windpipe.
After reading some kink books that give detailed instructions about how to suspend people, to give people piecing, fake cutting people as well as convince your sub that you have a loaded gun in their mouth with the disclaimer about how dangerous choking is really puts in perspective. There are tools to safely cut off air supply don't choke someone
When I say "choke", I mean I lock my fingers in a grasping position and lift up against their jaw. It's simulated choking. I'm well aware of the danger in cutting off blood flow to the brain.
TIL.
you ain't a rapist, but you are putting them in danger breath play is incredibly dangerous
Just ask David Carradine. Although, I'm still not convinced it was suicide.
if done properly with good technique it's not that risky. you need to trust your partner, have good communication (including both verbal and nonverbal systems of consent), and have the awareness to monitor your partner's physical state while doing the deed.
breathplay is edgeplay but imo it's one of the safer forms of edgeplay
I'm aware, and I know how to simulate choking without harming the person.
You should have sent them a link to kink.com it would blow their minds.
Sure, only their minds, lol.
Hmmmm.
So what does it mean if I enjoy practicing hojojutsu on my consensually non-consenting partner...?