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The main difference is that they're there specifically for the social experience. These folks are not going there to date you, no, but they are going there to socialize, so the barriers to socializing with strangers are greatly lowered. Maybe don't just go there with dating front and center in your mind; instead focus on just meeting and getting to know people.
I suppose, could be.
Though tbf, I don't go anywhere "with dating front and center in my mind," I go places for reasons, and sometimes while at these places I see someone I think is cute and also looks maybe cool, and then dating pops into my mind, like, "oh shit they're cute, and they look like they might be cool, I wonder if they'd be into me and if it could work out." Dating is put into my mind by nature of seeing someone I may be interested in dating.
Is that not normal?
That sounds pretty normal to me. Though, in total fairness, I'm ADHD myself, so I feel a lot of what you've been saying here. Especially being hyper aware of the social meta. I've also learned a lot of advanced masking over the years. Yeah, definitely, if you're at a social event and someone catches your interest, just start with going and meeting them. Introduce yourself, and a small heartfelt compliment doesn't hurt, "hey, that was a good question, I wish I'd thought of that", for example. Also, asking low-risk questions about other people is a good way to endear them to you, "is this your first time going to this class/club? Oh? What got you interested in it?" Etc. These are all pretty good ways to start getting a conversation going so you can get a feel for that person. If it turns out you like that person, you can always offer to trade contact info so you can keep talking, or ask if you could meet somewhere (specific like "the library" or "that coffee shop") public at a specific time to chat; people tend to be more receptive if you have something specific you want to chat about, even if it's "getting to know you". It's also usually better to put that off until after a second encounter in public, I think. Last, If they ask if it's a date, be up front, only say "no" or "it doesn't have to be" if you really mean it. Ofc, YMMV. Best of luck!