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It's crazy how few times in an average man's life he gets real compliments on clothing or looks. It happens so rarely most of us can tell you about the times even when they're 20 years ago.
Speaking from first hand experience: try growing a handlebar mustache (if you can). If you groom it well you will get complimented all the time. I'm a fairly generic looking guy without the stache, and almost never got complimented on my looks before I grew it.
Similarly if you grow a John brown beard but condition it that worked for me as a 18 year old but that was 12 years ago so ymmv. Also admittedly I was apparently hot
Muttonstache also works
I try to be mindful of this (I compliment people fairly frequently when I'm out of the house), and I still find that I don't really 'notice' men as much as women (I am asexual, so it is not an attraction thing either.) I think it's because a lot of women's clothing is varied, lots of different and interesting patterns and color combinations and cuts and styles. Men's fashion tends to be pretty... similar? The times I remember noticing and complimenting men has usually been when they've worn a t-shirt with an anime or something I like on it. One time I saw a guy with these really cool, vibrant sleeve tattoos too and I mentioned how much I like those.
Not that I'm saying it's men's faults--men's casual fashion seems to really stake itself on being 'plain' and 'simple'. All the t-shirts look the same, just in different solid colors. Plain jeans are plain jeans. Cargo shorts are cargo shorts. It's easy to let your eyes sort of slide past it without registering much. Almost like social camouflage!
My husband wears a lot of 90s nostalgia t-shirts and he gets compliments on them!
I'm pretty average looking but I have a cool looking cloak and I get a compliment literally every time I wear it because it pops. It's different.
As a wearer of nerdy t-shirts, i appreciate you! 😁
And honestly, I'm happier that way. The less I'm noticed, the happier I am, generally speaking. I'm an introvert and feel obligated to spend some "social energy" whenever a random stranger says something to me. They might compliment my kid or ask about something I'm wearing or whatever, and I need to respond to that in some socially appropriate form.
I'm not socially anxious or awkward or anything, I just don't like putting in the effort. So I generally avoid the things that would lead to random social interaction.
2 I have had 2 on the exact same shirt. I have no idea where that shirt is and it is my favourite shirt because of those compliments.