The only times I was genuinely proud of myself were when I didn't even try and still got extremely good results for something. If I prepare for something, when I do success in achieving it, it just feels like it was supposed to happen anyway.

[–] HerderHilton@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It might be helpful to reframe what made you proud. Like you said, putting in the effort up front means you expect to do well. But you should be proud of your preparation which enabled you to be successful.

It’s easy to fixate on the end goal (eg doing well on a test) and ignore all the little steps that got you there (going to class, doing your homework, studying).

[–] Martineski@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Any tips on where to start with switching your mindset?

[–] HerderHilton@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Anything you can do to remind yourself of the journey and progress along the way helps. Thinking about someone’s weight loss journey the end goal is to hit an ideal weight, but the regular weigh ins, tracking progress at the gym, and reduced calorie counts help give perspective to the bigger picture.

I’m very much a data/visualization so your mileage may vary. Hope that helps spark some ideas!