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People talking about sex is not torture. Get a grip.
It is if it's not consensual.
Verbal and emotional abuse are still abuse, still count as harm, and psychological abuse is so effective it is used in psychological warfare.
Physical abuse is to physical torture, what verbal&emotional abuse are to psychological torture.
Maybe learn a little about consent so you stop harming others. I've already given you an example of why someone may not want to discuss sex (past trauma), but also, given your personality- they may find YOU distressing to talk with and not a safe person. And by your own words, you aren't.
You are torturing me with your username. Why do you want to harm me and the rest of Lemmy?
Haha was about to say the same thing, they be riding that high horse forgetting their roots
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Argumentative comments trigger me, please stop torturing me. Ask for consent before speaking in this shared space.
I'm fine with you experiencing emotional pain like guilt for things you've done wrong. It's not my job to manage your emotions anyway.
You can't demand behavior from me - that's not a boundary (hint hint).
It's too bad arguments trigger you, but that's not a trigger I am willing to step around much as simple conflict is part of communities and is not equivalent to discussing sex with people beyond their boundaries in any way. You're of course welcome to leave the conversation or block me - enforce your boundaries. Which is what people are doing when they don't talk to you about sex, you're violating their boundaries and they distance themselves from you as a natural consequence. You have the same options here as the other scenario of someone being given a panic attack because you have to talk about sex in a way that violates their boundaries. That being said, irl there is harassment, so even the law understands things like emotional boundaries. Harassment doesn't extend to answering someone back on an open forum, though.
It's so funny, men who are mad women won't talk about sex with them and then they do stuff like this. I never have the issues you all have, and it's because it's a you thing in how you treat others. I just... lol.