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In the USA the FASFA is used to determine how much financial aid (grants, or zero interest loans) someone can get for university
Unfortunately it looks at parents assets as well as the adult students assets.
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So the loop hole here is obvious, two students should get married, then their financial need will be totally unmet and get the highest level of benefits
I know someone who had to do this. Her parents were abusive and were refusing to do the FASFA paperwork, holding it over her head for something. She had already been in college a couple of years at this point. So, she found a friend she trusted and they got married, allowing her to get the funding she needed to continue to attend college.
The US is so trash.
by such a large degree it's frightening. Waiting for the Bell riots to happen is taking forever
My girlfriend was in a similar situation. The people at FASFA will work with you if you can prove that your parents will not comply and you aren't financially dependent on them. As long as your friend wasn't living with her parents, she likely didn't have to get married.
She had tried working with them and they weren't giving her any other choice.
I'm fr curious if this can work. If it does, it seems beyond impossible to find a 25 year old college woman who would even want to marry
Two 18 year old students about to start university get married. I think it can even be same sex, marriage is marriage.
Remember Marriage isn't for life! You and your partner could get married with the understanding this is just a college marriage.
"Hey, let's just get married to be eligible for benefits. Yeah, we'll just pinky promise that we won't ever abuse the hell out of our 'partner' who we now share every single responsibility with. I also took out a huge loan to buy a boat, why are you asking, dear? Half of it is technically yours, why aren't you happy?"
two penniless students are judgement proof, so even in this scenario when they divorced there wouldn't be anything to recover. As a 18 year old with nothing, as long as you don't have kids, there is almost nothing to lose.
It's not about losing stuff, it's about gaining stuff. Debt, mostly.
That's a whole abuse of the purpose of marriage, though
A loop hole that is technically correct is still correct.
What is the purpose of marriage?
Legally it is a shortcut to establishment of a number of implied contracts, tells the courts how to unwind those contracts, and rights. In some cases the implied contracts are more effective than written ones. Medical decisions and visitation rights being first ones I can think of.
I sm not a lawyer.
Two people bound together for life for the purposes of creating a family
Yeah, you can miss me with the religious bullshit. This is a legal loophole in a legal system.
If it was for religious reasons, I would have specified it as a "man and a woman"
Then what is your basis for it only being between two people? You're defining it just like religion does because that's where you got the idea even if you don't realize it.
Because that's what marriage is and always has been, anything else is contrary to human nature
Marriage is human nature? Legal documents providing specific legal protections in your specific country is human nature?
Marriage is more than legal documents
Yeah, religion. Marriage has literally no basis in humanity except for religion and legal protection.
Living with someone doesn't require marriage. Procreation doesn't require marriage. Cooperation doesn't require marriage. Being with one person exclusively for life doesn't require marriage. It's literally just religion and laws, that's it.
Not in the situation being described here. The situation being described here is a method for people to legally untether themselves from their parents.
So divorce shouldn't be allowed in this philosophy?
Only as a last resort. You shouldn't get married without intending to stay together for life.
"You shouldn't use marriage to stop yourself being legally chained to your parents. The purpose of marriage is to legally chain you to your spouse."
If people could "divorce" their parents you wouldn't have to worry about this.
Only two? That seems needlessly restrictive. Is it for religious reasons? Church and state should be separated.
If it was for religious reasons, I would have specified it as a "man and a woman"
Also, if it's more than two, that's not a marriage; that's a group chat.
You still didn't explain why.
You're thinking about this all wrong. The age of marriage and childbearing have been going up. Think of the kids who would just decide fuck it might as well just stay married and do this. This could be the arranged marriage of the future.