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[–] Honytawk@lemmy.zip 40 points 1 year ago (20 children)

Because phonecalls are reserved for when you immediately with no delay need someone.

Asking about a show is not one of those cases.

[–] curiousaur@reddthat.com 23 points 1 year ago (19 children)

Or just want to talk to someone? Why are we simultaneously normalizing anti-social behavior and wondering why the young people are so unhappy?

[–] JohnDClay@sh.itjust.works 16 points 1 year ago (11 children)

Why not text 'wanna talk sometime'? A call demands an immediate response, so reserve it for things that demand immediate responses.

[–] LaurelRerun@lemmy.ml 9 points 1 year ago (3 children)

No it doesn't. Just don't pick up the phone. If it's important they'll text you to pick up the phone. There's a reason the terms "phone tag" and "screening calls" exist.

[–] JohnDClay@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

But you don't know the relative importance of what they're telling vs what you're doing. A text gives more information than just seeing your receiving a call.

[–] Amazed@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

That’s why people leave voicemails… you leave a verbal note of why you’re calling. And if the receiver prefers to read a text about it, several services transcribe voicemails automatically good enough to get the general gist. Or they can listen to them.

The point is that people usually don’t set out to ruin your day or misbehave, and you cannot control other people’s experience, expectations and preferences, only your own. So it’s on you to know yourself well enough to manage your boundaries appropriately with technology/tools, and possibly communication, and not to blame other people for “missteps”. When what they are doing is likely perfectly within the realm of reason to them.

Especially if they have a disability and calls are easier for them. If you have the disability, you can communicate your preferences but don’t expect people to know immediately. Set up your tech accordingly to communicate your needs. And acclimate where you can.

If things “escalate”.. well… it’s likely your fault. We always need to look at our part first.

[–] magikmw@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

Nothing good ever came out of a voicemail I received. Disabled and wont enable again. Text me if it's important enough for me to call back with a brief topic. I don't call back if I don't get a text, that's reserved for maybe 5 people on earth.

[–] JohnDClay@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

And if the receiver prefers to read a text about it, several services transcribe voicemails automatically good enough to get the general gist.

I use these. But they're less direct and easier to misunderstand than if it was native text. If someone wants to say it, they can voice type as well.

[–] Amazed@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Absolutely. Also hit and miss accuracy wise and can turn out to be an essay, but definitely an option.

[–] LaurelRerun@lemmy.ml 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Damn dude, it's not that big a deal. Just don't pick up the phone. If it's important they'll find a way to let you know.

[–] Honytawk@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 year ago

You will feel terrible if you don't pick up the phone and it turns out to be something important, like being able to hear the last words of your grandma or something.

Texting is a lot less of a big deal than a phone call is.

[–] stebo02@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 year ago

if you don't pick up they'll get mad and say you never pick up your phone

[–] stebo02@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 year ago

I'm sorry, what's "phone tag" and "screening calls"? Never heard of any of that.

[–] socsa@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

Thanks for waking me up from the one nap I've gotten this year.

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