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Hai! I'm new-ish here. I've known for a bit I'm trans, but barely started anything substantial really. I'm easing into it, but I've had this thing stuck in my mind recently.

Whats something relatively small or cheap/easy that helps make you feel girl? I have a few loungey clothes and stuff and been working on body hair removal but I'm looking for something... Else? I'm not sure what. Just thought this could be a good place for ideas or advice.

I'm just looking for new easy ideas that might help me feel more 'at home'? Idk I wanna be a comfy chill relaxed girl.

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[–] ted@sh.itjust.works 39 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

Eyeliner pencil.

Or pick and choose from this very absolute-beginner friendly make-up video

The euphoria I got from my first application of foundation, eyeliner, and blush was marvelous.


Second suggestion: jewelry. A cute bracelet, subtle necklace.

If you haven't gotten your ears pierced and want to, go to a piercing studio. If you have them pierced, dangly earrings!


Skin care routine! Cleaning and moisturizing your face every night is very femme.


Get your nails done. If you have a friend who can do it, do that. Or go to a nail salon, a basic polish will only be 20-40 bucks and you get to choose from hundreds of colours. Start with just your toes if you aren't comfortable.


Pluck your eyebrows. You just need an eyebrow tweezer. Makes you look cleaner even if you're still largely presenting masc.


Wear women's underwear, boyshorts are a nice option if you're not ready for a bikini cut.


Start getting rid of extra boy clothes that you don't foresee yourself wearing in the future. It can help relieve a burden you didn't even know was there.


Sorry, I'm 3 months in and these are some of the things that I've done. I'm full time, out at work and with family -- I moved quickly I guess.

[–] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I honestly would love to have my nails done, but money is tight and free time is hard to come by. I have been working on a skin care routine, and now that you mention it, doing that after a shower wearing femme clothes feels amazing!

Damn you're moving fast! I'm 18+ months in and only moved a little! I'm only really out with my partner.

[–] ted@sh.itjust.works 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

We all move at our own pace and there are good reasons!

I'd ask any femme friends if they would come over and do your nails. It takes about an hour. You don't even need to mention gender. Base coat, color, then top coat.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 4 days ago

and it's also not hard to pick up a polish at the store, watch youtube videos, and do it yourself - though being short on time would be the bigger constraint in that case.