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As a shut in with social anxiety and very introverted I'm wondering how to find friends now that I got better. Basically starting from zero since I know nobody in my city so I'm wondering if someone has some experience with finding friends as lonely anxious introvert and just how other people find friends.

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[–] Sabata11792@ani.social 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

What about the fear of actually going to an event? My brain still sees it as a life or death situation. I can barely manage to get groceries, and thats after years of fixing.

[–] Hazor@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

The only way it gets easy is by going through it repetitiously until you've become desensitized. Which is obviously easier said than done. It's a gradual process and will often involve periods of regression in between periods of progress, but if you've been through years of fixing then you probably know this. Are therapy or medications an option for you? They can make the process easier.

[–] Sabata11792@ani.social 1 points 3 weeks ago

Medicine didn't help(although i didnt have my shit together enought to stop drinking at that time) but I figured out enough Ai to pirate therapy on my own hardware. It's what I got to work with.