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When is it the right time to give up? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 3 weeks ago by TokenEffort@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] tedvdb@feddit.nl 8 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I think no one has their life together at their twenties. At your thirties things start to calm down, and gives you the oppertunity to organise your life. Only then you know who you are and what you want from life, and then you can change up your life for it to be what you want it to be.

[–] TokenEffort@sh.itjust.works -2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Everyone else does between 15 and 19, they have their own houses and cars they bought with their jobs, yet I'm almost 30 and I have nothing. Everyone else is getting married at 23. At 30 I'll still be trying to move out just like I will be at 50, and 80, and after retiring I'll still be trying to move out by gambling or grinding online stuff until I die in the house I'll stuck in. Might as well cut my losses.

[–] tedvdb@feddit.nl 14 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Everyone else does between 15 and 19

No they don't. It just looks like it. At 30 the things they found important at 18 aren't important anymore. Priorities shift.

Everyone else is getting married at 23

I literally know no-one that was married at 23.

At 30 I’ll still be trying to move out

Just like a lot of people of this generation. They are fucked by housing prices.

So you're not alone in this. I think most people are in a similar situation. Try to find people that can support and help you. Just don't give up, you never know what happens tomorrow.