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I see this sentiment all the time and it always bothered me, but I only recently realized exactly why: you're not talking about the same thing as the cis straight guys.
You don't have to be that attractive to find love. Plenty of ugly people have relationships. Just be yourself, dress well, don't say stupid things etc then go out and meet people and you'll probably meet someone you vibe with. But that's not really what the cis straight guys are talking about. They want to put less effort into having a sex life. They want to walk into a party and have women approach them. They want to feel conventionally attractive. Best way to do that is to be somewhat muscular.
And even then, guys, really get your fucking expectations and entitlements and just like, take them and shove them all into a duffle bag, squeeze any fragile ego you might have laying around in there too, and just throw that thing down a well and forget about it.
Seriously, if you can just "let go" of all the things you wish you had involving dating and relationships, and just learn to enjoy life and enjoy being around people, you will be a thousand, million times happier than the dudes who spend all their time trying and even succeeding to get laid when they want it.
If what you're doing is frustrating you and making you unhappy... change. That's your greatest power, just change. Go somewhere else, change what you want, change who you are and be genuine about it. (When you stop caring, it also has the bonus effect of making you cool, and thus wildly attractive to people who get to know you.)