Last year I said I was going for bird feed and groceries, came home with a bottle of wine, bonbons and a big ass vase filled with 24 flowers and presented the gifts in stages 'ooh yeah forgot this one'. She was already happy with the choco.

One hand shopping bag, other arm vase and flowers because it did not fit in a bag walking home on icy pavement, I don't have a driver license so had to tread carefully, could have broken the vase, my legs and neck.

Maybe I'll finally go on my knees and ask her to marry? We argue sometimes who should propose. I just don't want to jinx our relationship.

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[–] AtHeartEngineer@lemmy.world 36 points 5 days ago (2 children)

If you've been together for 25 years you practically are married, it's just paperwork at that point.

[–] dingus@lemmy.world 13 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I mean it sounds lame and beurocratic af, but that paperwork does come in handy for medical and legal issues. Say one partner were to become incapacitated and medical decisions needed to be made on their behalf for example.

[–] AtHeartEngineer@lemmy.world 3 points 4 days ago

Ya ya, definitely, you can get partnership agreement notarized that basically accomplished the same thing though

[–] kindenough@kbin.earth 15 points 5 days ago (3 children)

We already call eachother husband and wife often. I guess it is not that important to us, but we joke sometimes about who will kneel first. Maybe we could make it something fun. It would be just a few people around though, nothing fancy.

[–] archiduc@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Think hospital: “Sorry, family only”. Do it before you need it.

[–] kindenough@kbin.earth 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

My catholic grandma from my mothers side had 14 kids, my protestant grandma from my dads side 7. I have a huge family, my girlfriend's family is jewish, and if you would bring them all together there will be some in a hospital lateron because a lot of them hate each other with a passion and not only for their religion.

It's complicated. My mom is horrible and violent, my dad and his girlfriend alcoholics, my girlfriends father a raging racist, and her mom died when she was only 16 and she lost contact.

So it would be a few dear and close friends. Nobody else, certainly not any family would ever know.

[–] archiduc@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Sorry maybe I wasn’t clear. I meant that sometimes hospital have a policy to not let you in to see or stay with your significant other if you are not a family member. If you are not married you are not family so they could refuse you seeing your partner in some situations.

[–] kindenough@kbin.earth 1 points 2 days ago

Ah I see what you mean now.

[–] ickplant@lemmy.world 6 points 4 days ago

In my state, you’d be considered common-law married. Might as well get married-married. If you both want it, that is.

[–] AtHeartEngineer@lemmy.world 7 points 5 days ago

Lol ya exactly, you could make it a ridiculous show of doing paperwork, like a comical version of doing your taxes (idk if you are in the US but our taxes can sometimes be crazy)