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[Things that Made All the Difference] What's the most or a substantially positively life-changing action you took? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 weeks ago by cheese_greater@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Talk about how it came up and how its improved your life/health for having done so

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[–] flubba86@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I'm also a landmark graduate, and I can confirm it is a life changing experience.

Doing the forum allowed me to realise I have so much wasted potential, I didn't have to be working minimum wage repairing laptops at the local computer store, I enrolled at University in a IT degree with the goal to be a software engineer. Doing the forum gave me the confidence to tell my boss I'm quitting and going to be a full time student and how that's a good thing for him. The forum gave me the confidence to talk honestly with my wife about what I want from our marriage, instead of me constantly trying to appease her wants. It caused me to have a real, meaningful, deep conversation with my mother, for the first time in 20 years. I was able to tell her frankly that her narcissistic tendencies in my formative years caused me to suffer from debilitating chronic anxiety in my 20s (my sister too), but it's okay because she did the best she could, and I'm getting it treated.

I went on to do the Self-Expression and Leadership course, and later the Advanced course. My wife did the same. I eventually stopped because of the endless and relentless hard-sell routines to get all your friends and family to come and sign up. They have to realise that's off-putting to most people, but it's their only marketing avenue so it must work reasonably well.